Homosexual inclinations do not equal to being "gay". Homosexuality is the result of living through one's desires to be homosexual. Rather than being a real homosexual, someone who faces these desires for the same sex may be facing something within themselves which can not be fully explained, or at least can be explained in a different way than just thinking "I'm gay". Thus, someone facing internal pressure sometimes receive added pressure externally from friends or others who encourage them to "Come Out", or "Be your'self." This begs the question whether or not the person, male or female, is homosexual to begin with, or is just facing some kind of emotional/psychological crisis.