Advise me, Spam.

[Rose Swan]

Please realize before posting this is a serious thread. Other Spammers have come here seeking advice, and so I figured it's my turn to spill some family issues.

On my mother's side of the family, she has two sisters. She's the oldest, we'll call the middle child who lives in my city Jane, and the youngest, who lives in New England, Mary. Mom and her sisters did not necessarily have the greatest relationship with their mother, since the lady was pretty damn crazy. For example, my mother broke her thumb when she was a child and she failed to take her to the emergency room to get it taken care of. She and my grandfather divorced, and now she lives in New England with a new husband who is also a douche. I have never met them before in my life, and this is mainly going off of the stories of my family. After the divorce, Mary was living with her and wasn't being the greatest of mothers to her. Mary called my grandfather and asked him if she could live with him. My grandfather agreed, she told my grandmother that she was going to a sleepover, and grandfather came and got her. She wanted to press kidnapping charges on my grandfather, but sweet mild mannered Mary went into a room with her mother and told her off for good. This incident led to the full blown shunning of my grandmother from my family.

Meanwhile, douchey husband knocked up my grandmother, and this was (scarily enough) around the same time Mom was pregnant with me. I have a half aunt (Also never met her) who is my age.

A few years ago, I almost met them both, but Mom sent her an email to see if they wanted to meet up. Grandmother sent a nasty email to her in response, and it crushed my mom, which led to this not happening.

Now for the advice part. The half aunt has sent a friend request on Facebook to my mom, Aunt Jane, Aunt Mary, and me. Aunt Mary had decided to accept it, because half aunt hasn't done anything officially wrong. Mom and Aunt Jane in the meantime decided to decline and block her because they don't want my grandmother to see their lives through her. Some of you on my Facebook know I don't really post much about my life, and if it is, it's pretty general. Mom told me that I could do what I want with it, and I'm not sure what I want to do. I'm almost scared of the psycho lady seeing me, but this girl hasn't done anything wrong, and her Facebook page is pretty innocent too.

So, the big question is: Accept? Or not accept?

[Kill Bones]

Stop using facebook

Multiple problems solved

I'll expect my payment in the mail

[The Australian]

Personally, it sounds like your mum is being the equal prick with carrying on the tradition of hating the half-aunt, because demon spawn.

Accept it, because it's the right thing to do and to fucking piss off your mum.

[ImANargleHunter]

From my experience, a broken thumb isn't worth the hospital wait.

[Rose Swan]

Personally, it sounds like your mum is being the equal prick with carrying on the tradition of hating the half-aunt, because demon spawn.

Accept it, because it's the right thing to do and to fucking piss off your mum.

Mom says I can do what I want with it. If I want to accept it and get to know her better, I can. If not, okay. And they don't hate her either, they're just afraid my grandmother is coming back to haunt them.

[Azarthes]

You should accept it, send incredibly mean comments to her, host a page known as "X(Your halfaunt) is a total bitch, Lol) and then cancel your facebook account with a status saying only 'Lol XD'

[Fulsom]

Accept, its nice to know more about your family from a different perspective. Like you said, shes around your age so you could get along with you, and she could paint a better picture of the family which you belong to. Your half aunt may be able to tell you more about your grandmother, and perhaps shes had the same amount of trouble that your mother and her two sisters had, and is just looking to reach out to other family members.

I'm sorry to keep this short, but I'd rather bust out the main point and keep it simple. I hope you make the right decision, and one that you are comfortable with!

[Grif of Hearts]

I'd accept it and get to know her. If she's horrific then jump ship, but if not then you've made a new friend.

[Hank]

I have no serious advice for you in this situation. It seems ridiculous.

[Jorick]

KB's advice was pretty sound.

Barring that, go ahead and accept her. The sins of the father/grandmother are not the sins of the son/half-aunt. For all you know, your mother and aunts could be blowing things way out of proportion and the grandmother isn't nearly as much of a bitch as they say. Even if she is, that needn't be the case for the half-aunt. She could be a great person who you like a lot and become close friends with.

I'd say accept it and see how shit goes. If she's crazy or a huge bitch, remove and block her. Oh, also, you say you're scared of the potential psycho seeing you? If you have images online with your name attached to them, it's not hard for someone with basic internet know-how to find what you look like if they have your name. That's a silly reason to be worried about not accepting, she already knows enough about you to hunt you down and kill you if she really wants to. You've got nothing to lose, accept and see what happens.