There's more to life than romance. If that's what he wants to do, it's what he wants to do. Support him or move on.
Seriously, though -- why would you get in the way of this guy improving his life and taking the mature route? Is your self-esteem really that low that you would hold him back just to feed your compulsive need to be around him? It's not like you can't see him on the weekends, or after school.
And yeah, he's joining up after school. That's not a bad move; the economy sucks and nobody's hiring people unless they have military experience or have an in already. Yeah, he could get hurt or worse overseas, but you could get run off the road and die just as easily. Cut him some slack.
I know you feel like you're going to marry this guy, but will you really want to be with someone who resents you because you were overly clingy and held him back from bettering himself? Never mind the overriding fact that high school relationships seldom, if ever, last. The world isn't the same as when grandma and grandpa married right out of high school.
As for you, I think you really need to analyze just why you're so clingy. It seems to me like you have some *serious* self-esteem issues that need to be addressed. Yeah, I know this has pretty much been stated already, but you seem like a good kid. Only when you've really got your own shit together should you be thinking about spending the rest of your life with someone.
You claim to both be clingy. Alright, fine... If you want to be with each other then hooray. No crime there.
However, you need to be more supportive of him, rather than focusing just on the marriage. Just be happy that you love each other and let him go do his thing with the marines. Online school is no big deal. Then, after the whole marines bit is over, get married if you're still in love. This isn't a route for clingy people... You BOTH need to let go a little bit. However, don't lose contact. Call each other, hang out as much as you can until he leaves, and then keep in touch while he's gone. Once he's back, THEN you can start thinking about marriage.
For now, focus on the love. Your biggest problem is over-thinking things. Even I tend to panic myself trying to think about the future. Just... let it go. Enjoy your time together, and be patient for him to get back. Stop planning, stop worrying, and stop pitying yourself. Quite honestly, half of your responses are, "Oh, I'm going through so much, I just don't know what to do..."
No. You DO know what to do, you're just avoiding it. After this much advice, and constantly saying how much everyone on here is right, you know what to do. So just do it already and stop stressing yourself out because a few things are going wrong. Everybody has tough times in life, but pitying yourself isn't going to make it go away. You have to accept the path he's chosen. Even if you plan to get married... His life is still his until the day you are bound in matrimony.
Nothing is hard unless you keep telling yourself that it is. Your pessimistic views are the biggest problem here and it's keeping you in circles. Loosen up.
Can I just remind all of you well intentioned 'grow the fuck up' people that she hasn't been online and she already said she was going to talk things out with her boyfriend last night? Plus, 50 repetitions of the same depressing reality check is well over the border into redundant. If she didn't get it three pages back, she's not gonna.
D; i are sad @ dis thread
oh my god
Besides, teenagers respond more to peer pressure.
Do it and you're cool! Do it and you're cool!
Seriously though, education and work should always come before relationships, I agree.
Also, don't hold him back. If you pressure anyone into a relationship or to forgo their dreams for your sake, they'll just hate you for it in the end.
HAHAH!!!! Okay, ive been nice, but ive got a huge urge i just can't hold back any more...
You are all ass holes!!!!
I feel stupid for even sticking this thread out there. Sure, some of your guys' advice was great, but beleive it or not, haha YOUR NOT GOD! your not the wisest most experienced person out there. Hell i doubt any of you are over the age of twenty eight, and if so, get off the damn computer and get a fucking job! To those of you who where nice and stuck up for my poor little heart, thank you, and those of you who said i was clingy or stalker-ish, I love that new living room furniture you got and seriously, it doesn't hurt to shave! ^.^ Few! *Takes deep breath* Damn that feels better. ^^ My last post on this thread. Enjoy ripping apart this post and making me look like a retarded jack ass! :arr: