you all are such good listeners. 

that said...i've been playing mmos since i could read and use a keyboard. i personally cant really offer any tips or such that i dont think arises from common sense or asking other players. even worse being that if i had a choice i would NEVER be a 'tank' per say. more likely a mage or archer who would have different kinds of stats, were never to close to danger, and fought from long distances. i'll admit if SAO was real, i'd probably die fast.