[quote=Griever]
Eh, I don't think that's necessarily true. Just because you tolerate a different demographic, doesn't mean you have to tolerate behaviors by that group. For example, I have many intelligent, successful black friends, but I still openly condemn the ratchetness that is so prevalent in the Afro-American community. I am, for all intents and purposes, a black-American ally and my condemnation of the worst aspects of black culture does not diminish that.
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and it's understandable because the gay community itself can be prejudiced against more effeminate gays, so it's not exactly just an external prejudice. But then, if you're just yourself and not very flamboyant or noticeably gay, there's a little pushback against that too pretty often.