Also I know I haven't talked about HIS dad much either, but it's uh... it's not even a question in my mind that he went through worse than he put any of his kids through.

He's not evil, which I point at him noticeably trying to get better, he just also had very very shitty parents. Specifically his dad. Like holy shit is my grandfather a piece of shit too, and even the worst I've heard of my dad doesn't really match up to the worst I've seen of my grandfather. So yeah, my dad's not great (awful even) but he's still a huge improvement both on his father, and on himself now.

I mean the worst he does now is yell for a bit, get into fights infrequently, or go on stupid horrible rants of stupidity. He has definitely mellowed out.

As for why they stayed together, well the story of them getting together is... not good... and I do recall times where mom almost left and dad yelled at the kids (including myself) to try to get her to stay. I don't even know the full story, there's some stuff that's strange that I do know.