And the rest of my allies are chopped liver during all of that?

The problem with this situation is whoever attacks first is assuming the rest of the team is also going to be fighting, which would take away the attention of everyone on my character at once and disperse it amongst the entire group. That is unless they do end up doing nothing, then I'm screwed (and of course would leave the roleplay). But in this case I'll just have her do nothing and wait for everyone to post their attacks, a simple way around this issue.