[quote=Beatrix]
Oh Nargle, during my LDR/IR with Mike, we would talk all day, often times with our phones on the charger and even falling asleep while the call is still going, and then we wake up in the morning with the call still connected and wake each other up. XD
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I understand this; it's the greatest. Nevermind if it's a LDR or not, I think when couples do this it just means that they have a good mental and emotional connection with each other.
[quote=LoneSilverWolf]
That's where my friendship was severely damaged with the girl I was seeing and later trying to rebuild a friendship with. She is a distant person by nature...like, I ALWAYS want to talk/hang out with my friends, that's just how I am. SHE, however, is the type that doesn't usually talk to her friends every single day. She made a special effort to communicate with *me* everyday because of how close we were (this was after we broke up). The thing is, when one person wants to hang out and do stuff every day, and the other doesn't....it can be a real problem in a friendship. I was feeling hurt, like she didn't like me anymore, and she was feeling like I was pushing too much. I like what you said about having the same expectations because I've found that to be so true. And if the expectations cannot be exactly the same, a compromise ought to be reached (if the two in question really care for eachother as friends or more than friends, this should be possible), that both people can be happy with. I know for me, it's hard to see someone that I really care about and want to hang out with, doesn't seem to want the same thing from me. It's very hard not to take something like that personally--I guess this is where communication comes in, even just among friends let alone a couple.
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It does take more communication (more as in, more talking) to set expectations in an LDR because you aren't there to -see- the other person's reactions to what you say, so it's like walking on thin ice when you have to make a compromise and you often have to play the waiting game on each other; as someone said earlier, every word counts. BUT, I do think communication in person can often times be deeper (not necessarily more words, but more layers) which can ultimately make the compromising easier.