[@Natsucooldude] Well, color me clueless in that case.

I just fully understood that i was in the game when i rolled my initiative, and then i had really low init so it wasn't my turn.
So i tried to figure out where i fit in to all of this, which wasn't a 100% clear until... now really.

I guess you're used to keeping the playstyle loose and people drop in as they see fit. But i am not and have tried to wrap my head around this for some time.
But now feels like i know where i am and what is going on, so it's fine now.