[quote=@Buddha]Yeah, I know that mental disorders are more frequent in LGBT people but I think that's not just because of how people react to them but also due to how LGBT people are often afraid to come out. It kinda hypes up their feelings when in reality (in my country) nobody really cares.

As for having things yelled at you, well, I can't really speak on that. I just want to let you know that a lot of people get yelled at for varying things and it's just a fact of life.[/quote]

Mental disorders in the LGBTQ+ community aren't always a result of catastrophising. Some of us do get treated badly once we're out. My family is supportive, but not all LGBTQ+ people are as lucky as I am. It's not always a matter of people being explicitly bigoted either. Prejudice is often much more subtle than that. My girlfriend has had a few people become noticeably uncomfortable around her once they found out about her sexuality.

And no, we're not going to put up with getting queerphobic stuff yelled at us. I know people get things shouted at them for many reasons, but this kind of treatment is why we're sometimes afraid to hold hands in public. The reason I mentioned it was because it's one example of prejudice against lesbian and bisexual women, and we want to fight that prejudice. It's no good saying "well, there are always going to be jerks, so we might as well just all accept bigotry".

[quote=@Buddha]I'm... not sure what you expect. The majority of people is hetero. Therefore it's easiest (and often quite safe, actually) to assume someone is hetero. If they are not, then you say 'oh, okay' and that's the end of it.

Like I said before, I'm not sure how you expect people to be able to tell? Most homosexuals/bisexuals don't look different from hetero's. Do you want us to.. smell it?

I'm also not sure about how 'not knowing someones sexuality therefore assuming they are part of the majority' is somehow erasing anything. She didn't take away your identity. She didn't say 'no you can't be bisexual' or anything. She just didn't know and then you told her and she knew, nothing hostile happened because of it. How would that lead to bisexuals being erased?[/quote]

Yes, most people are straight. However, that doesn't change the fact that non-straight sexualities are often disregarded. We just mention it (when it's appropriate) so people don't assume "straight unless proven otherwise" for both those reasons, because it's part of who we are.

Bisexual erasure is a thing, and even some gay people do it. It's a subconscious, ingrained thing, rarely overt, leading to the "same sex dating = gay, opposite sex dating = straight" assumption. My friend is married to a man, but her identity is still important to her. She doesn't want her past relationships with women invalidated. I don't want my past relationships with men invalidated. It isn't people's fault if they assume I'm a lesbian, but I am going to correct them on it - and I've had a few people (a small minority, but still) assume I'm gay and afraid to be open about it even after I've said I'm bi.