[@Chrononaut]
Interesting, I'll take this in mind and process it. While you are right, I do have an obsession with control, due to my past stuff though. Trying to let that go, that takes time but I'm trying!

I have a hard time not worrying, I am trying to worry less and I have with some things. Not all but some, there is progress to be made with this all, it comes with times from how I've seen it and had it happen to me.

While I do consider it a bonus and I don't attach all of my happiness to my other half. I don't view it as a prize in anyway, from how I've experienced it and was raised and watched it around me and told about them. A relationship is not a prize by any means, a bonus yes but like anything they do require work. 

If she does, it'll hurt but pain is only temporary. We spoke about it again and it seems to be fine now. She does fear the same with me at times, I've reassured her I have no interest in anybody else (I said anybody as I happen to be pan) and then we did talk about it as I said. It seems to be fine now though.

I do appreciate the the time and the advice you've given to me. I will keep it in mind, I thank you.