Look, man, roll back the attitude.
Let me put into terms that we may all understand.
Dervish invites us all into his house for a party. We all get there. Everything is going grand until one of us decides to leave and cut off all ties to them, we'll call him Guy A, laying dormant for a good long while. Keep in mind that the way he left wasn't exactly on a high note. Now, some other characters leave and might not be heard from for a while, but they don't quite leave like Guy A. Now, Guy A decides to come back unannounced like there was no history between Dervish and Guy A. We all like Guy A. Guy A is a pretty rad guy, but this being Dervish's house, it is our place as guests to default to the owner of the house's viewpoint.
I think we all know who Guy A is. I'm not trying to hurt you, friend, but I understand how you can be hurt, I do. Frankly, you saying those things you did hurt me too. As much as I want to defend you, I have to remember that you and Dervs have history. You're a friend, and I like to think that if we met in real life we'd get along well, as with most everyone here. I'm sorry. This is the way it is, I can not change it.