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Speaking of learning, please don't let pride get in Lunar's way of asking for help in this situation.


Absolutely not. He may not ask for help in a literal sense, but I think his lying is his way of letting me know something worries him enough that he wants help. He’s just too prideful to ask normally, so I’ve gotta jump through hoops.
*Chuckles and shakes my head*
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Absolutely not. He may not ask for help in a literal sense, but I think his lying is his way of letting me know something worries him enough that he wants help. He’s just too prideful to ask normally, so I’ve gotta jump through hoops.
*Chuckles and shakes my head*


*Concern briefly flashes across my face*
Lying? That sounds quite unhealthy.
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*Concern briefly flashes across my face*
Lying? That sounds quite unhealthy.


Well, not telling a whole truth is lying no? Maybe not the most sever form, but still.
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Well, not telling a whole truth is lying no? Maybe not the most sever form, but still.


Out of deception? Or something else?
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Out of deception? Or something else?


Definitely not deception. Pride in his own ability to take care of things. I imagine he also thinks it’s protecting us.
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Definitely not deception. Pride in his own ability to take care of things. I imagine he also thinks it’s protecting us.


Some things don't need to be said, but that's a fine line to walk.
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Some things don't need to be said, but that's a fine line to walk.


I don’t think it’s a walk you’re supposed to take at all with the one you love, but that’s just me.
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I don’t think it’s a walk you’re supposed to take at all with the one you love, but that’s just me.


How much information is too much?
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How much information is too much?


I don’t think anything should be.
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I don’t think anything should be.


Surely there are details you don't care to know.
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Surely there are details you don't care to know.


In my opinion, in a relationship, my problems are your problems, and yours mine. No exceptions. We work through those things together.
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In my opinion, in a relationship, my problems are your problems, and yours mine. No exceptions. We work through those things together.


Regardless of how minute?
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Regardless of how minute?


If it’s small enough that it’s dealt with immediately, sure. But thinking that way let’s problems grow.
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If it’s small enough that it’s dealt with immediately, sure. But thinking that way let’s problems grow.


And what of Lunar's ability to handle problems he does not see as significant or worth sharing?
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And what of Lunar's ability to handle problems he does not see as significant or worth sharing?


If it’s manageable then sure he might not need help. But I see no reason to hide the fact that it exists. Communication on these things prevents you from blindsiding the other later on, which is a big reason why couples fight.
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If it’s manageable then sure he might not need help. But I see no reason to hide the fact that it exists. Communication on these things prevents you from blindsiding the other later on, which is a big reason why couples fight.


My aim was to make a distinction between hiding a detail and not mentioning it in the first place. It's a bit of a close issue to me.
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My aim was to make a distinction between hiding a detail and not mentioning it in the first place. It's a bit of a close issue to me.


Oh. Well, I guess the distinction is that one isn’t intentional? Issues that tend to become big problems aren’t the kind that accidentally slip under the radar, so it doesn't worry me.
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Oh. Well, I guess the distinction is that one isn’t intentional? Issues that tend to become big problems aren’t the kind that accidentally slip under the radar, so it doesn't worry me.


I can agree with that. I'm glad we found a common ground.
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I can agree with that. I'm glad we found a common ground.


*Nods*
Circles back around to that communication thing.
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*Nods*
Circles back around to that communication thing.


Regarding ensuring that both parties understand each others' perspective?
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