Well... I've read most of the posts in here... I said 'most' because some of the posts are honestly a little too long for me to read fully, so I kinda fast-read them. Anyway, I've read most of the posts in here, and I'd say 'sexism exist on both sides of the coin'.
Not going to debate what's already been said, but I'd like to share my own experience as a girl who play games for fun and most times for the story of it (if the game got a back story to it).
I like games. I like watching people playing games, even if most of the times I wasn't the one playing it. And for several games, while I do enjoy the gameplay and the challenges in it, sometimes I just want to know how the story progressed, I want to know what happened next and what the ending would be. I don't claim to be an expert gamer, in fact, I'm pretty suck at playing them (except for a select few).
Most times when I got stuck on the game (offline games) because I wasn't skilled enough, I resorted to cheats. And, yes, I know all the gamers out there will immediately pointed at me and yell "CHEATER!! REAL GAMER WILL NEVER CHEAT!!" or something like that. Again, I already stated, that sometimes I just want to know how the story progressed, which with my gaming skill is going to take forever, if ever, to get.
I did beat some of those games without cheats later on when I got a lil more skilled though. x3 I want to play games for the fun, not to add to my stress level. lol
Anyway! The experience I want to share is the one when I was playing one of those MMORPG years ago. I think I was playing Ragnarok Online, was still a naive noob back then and didn't realize the stereotypes that comes in the online gaming regarding gender. I made a female character, a swordswoman if I remember correctly, and started to play my way through the Midgard world. I found several people seemed to rather eagerly offered their help or gifted me with items.
I am not someone who like to ask for items or gold, in fact I hated it. At most I usually only asked for directions or tips, I never once asked for items nor game money, so the whole thing of people offering me gifts in the game was quite awkward for me.
Then, one day, one of the male char I chatted with in the game asked me this question: "Hey, are you a real girl IRL?"
Being the naive noob I was, I replied: "Yes, why?"
Him: "Hmm... Reaaally? You sure you're not some transvestite who played as girl in here?"
By this time I was having a 'wtf' moment, and I told him. "Why would I pose as a girl?"
And he replied: "Well, to get people to shower you with gifts , of course!"
That's when the penny dropped for me.
I won't narrate the rest of the convo, but it was basically I told him that yes, I'm sure I'm a girl. He didn't believe me and wanted me to show him 'proof', at which time I point blank told him No, and basically said 'Whatever' when he tried to bait me again.
Yeah.. wasn't a pleasant experience, and it left a rather nasty impression. But fortunately, I managed to get past all that, eventually. I don't think that all the guys in the online games are all like that, though can't really deny that this kind of stigma/sexism/whatever you want to call it, does exist.
I came back to play the game again and resolved to simply having fun. I stick to my principal of achieving something on my own, or at least made sure that I pull my own weight to achieve what I wanted. And whenever someone tried to ask me about me being girl IRL, I simply turned it back on them.
GameFriend: "Hey, are you a real girl IRL? Or is this just your female char in game?"
Me: "That depends. If I told you that I am, would you believe me?"
GameFriend: "Well... Not really."
Me: "Then what's the point of me trying to convince you? You're not going to believe me anyway."
or
GameFriend: "Hey, are you a real girl IRL? Or is this just your female char in game?"
Me: "I'm a girl IRL."
GameFriend: "Really? I don't believe you."
Me: "That's your problem, not mine."
Sooo, yeah, that worked quite well for me. Heh. x3