Kyuki

What should I do?

So as some of you may or may not know I am getting married on April 1st of 2017... I've made a post before detailing the trials and tribulations I've faced during the planning process from my fiancées family. Well, the saga continues. His father won't acknowledge my existence to the point where he will say to someone else "can you make that move?" If I'm in his way. Granted, I was getting used to it. BUT NOW his brother who was supposed to get married in October is has now decided he's going to have TWO full blown weddings. One in January before ours and one in October after ours. Their reasoning? They want to be married and don't want to wait until October but they want to have their wedding still after ours so they can use the slogan "saving the best for last"... THEN I get a message from his brothers fiancée telling me all of this and saying "I know you guys are okay with it I don't know why I even. Thought I I needed to give you a heads up! LOL" first of all we are not and never will be friends this is literally the first time she acknowledged my presence so what the FUCK does she think she is just assuming we would be okay with it??????? I am beyond pissed off and truly considering rescheduling my wedding but I don't know what to do. We've already mailed save the dates like it would get real complicated.

And I know it seems stupid to even care but they are also using the same venue, they are using our DJ, they have the same bridal party with the exclusion of my sister, and they want to use the same church as us. Twice. I mean am I losing my mind or would anyone be bothered by this???

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Hey Everybody!

I don't remember the last time I posted on here... But I am sitting in my poetry class listening to my professor go on and on about his life. Thought I had an exam in this class today but he decided to postpone it until Thursday! Anyway, how is everyone?!

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@The Nexerusyup, and I have a lifetime to look forward to with them. ;-;

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Like I wouldnt invite them to my wedding

@Azarthes

Well, if you listen to them no one from my fiancées side of the family is going to go.

Well that was just cunt-fistingly awful of them. If some bitch in-law ever did that to me and my fiancée, you can guarantee I'd turn their wedding into a funeral, the self centered fucks. <.<

@Rusalka

I really just want to snap...

Cunts. I'd say they didn't deserve to go to the wedding in the first place.

@Aragorn

Oh yeah and might I add his brother and new fiancée have only been dating for 5 months and she's already three months pregnant...

Don't have any experience with in-laws, but bitchy narcissistic relatives are a tick. 27 years ago my aunt made my mum cry by telling her she'd only got pregnant to get their dad's attention. Her main hobby to this day is guilt tripping and manipulating my Nan (the only family member who can't see through her bullshit) into giving her money, eating food she hates, and just generally making her miserable but having her turn it on the rest of her family and friends so she becomes more isolated from everyone else. Oh yeah, she also banned my Mum from visiting Nan in hospital, but my Nan doesn't know this and just thinks she's the perfect daughter.

Anyway, I've watched my Dad get angry at her and vent to me about it. I've watched my Mum get stressed out over it and the toll that's taken on their marriage. Neither of those approaches seem to work. I only really got around to dealing with it when I realized how fucking pathetic you have to be to have nothing better to do with your life than hate your own family. You've got to see how much bigger and better a person you are by just trying to live your life well, while they have to tear down and compete to feel good about themselves. Try to forgive, and even pity them, because they should matter that little to you.

@KnightShade

thats what I plan on doing but my own mother keeps telling me to make peace with them but I don't think I can take anymore of their comments. When I first started dating my fiancée nearly two years ago his mom would do nothing but tell me how fat I am and tell me I should lose weight and that she wishes her son could find someone older. Even went as far as telling me she had a size 28 pair of jeans I could have... I barely fit in a size 10 (which I know isn't toothpick status but still) and the only reason she has those pants is because she got gastric bypass surgery after having 3 hearts attacks from being overweight

With luck, it might be that now that you're getting married it'll be easier for your boy to put distance between you and them- He has his own family now, and though you're not going to get rid of the in-laws completely, they should respect that they're not entitled to be a centrepiece of your relationship anymore. If they don't, that fucking sucks, but it's their problem to deal with and you aren't obligated to try and reconcile.

No more family dinners where guilt is the main course, hopefully.

@Antarctic Termite

Definitely no more family dinners! I'm really glad I came here because people in my offline life were telling me that I was just being ridiculous because the comments made on Facebook were never intended to be seen by me so it's not like they're out to make me feel bad

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I feel like I only ever come on here when something eventful is taking place in my life... But anyhow, as some of you know I recently got engaged a couple of months ago and so far everything has been shitty...

A week after we got engaged I went with my fiancée to this weekly dinner his family holds on Thursday night where his brother and his girlfriend announced they were having a baby...one week later they announce they are having twins!

Should be happy,right? Not! So this girl says to me after they announce their pregnancy "we were going to announce it the day you two got engaged but never got around to it... It's like we're always a step ahead of you two!" (Referencing to them renting a house together two weeks after they started dating and it taking my fiancé and I over a year together to get an apartment because that had been a running joke at our expense) so anyway things calmed down and my fiancée and I went about our business until this girl threw a hissy fit because her newborns or other child were not being included in our wedding so my fiancées mother went behind my back and tried to tell my fiancée that "I" was being unreasonable about the wedding and not letting their kids be apart of it... So we haven't talked to his family in weeks over it. Now they just got engaged yesterday and his mom posted on Favebook how she is so excited about the babies (since they're having twins and my fiancées sister in law is pregnant) and "insert names here" wedding... Then goes on in the comment section to talk about their wedding and to the point where a distant relative said "isn't your other son getting married too?" At which point she said "I'm not attending THAT wedding... The marriage will never last" and then his brothers gf adds "we wouldn't know anything about it since we weren't included in anything but mine will be better anyway" and granted the only way I saw what was said is because someone sent it but now I'm just feeling some type of way and being told I shouldn't be anything but happy for them...

How would any of you feel?