@Akayaofthemoon Well darn, I wish I could give you some good advice but I don't know your husband so I really can't. Plus I'm sure you don't want my crappy advice and it's probably super condescending of me, I just really feel like I need to offer some kind of help beyond saying I feel for you. The closest thing I can compare from my own close relationships to yours, although I don't have much experience with romantic ones, is that everyone deals with difficult situations differently. I've had plenty of people in my life who would try so hard to always look ahead and try to force things to go back to normal because they weren't sure how to fix it with words. It sounds like that
might be what he's doing? Idk though, it probably really isn't my place to say, and I'm really sorry if that was offensive in any way.
Kronshi