Ok, see, that's a TON better than the male playthrough. Maybe because the Exile is supposed to be female in canon they did more writing for her? And you totally read my mind about the restored content mod! Played through KOTOR 2 with it and WOW it made a difference, especially when it came to endgame. SO much made sense after that mod, but the romances still sucked xD.
Honestly, out of all the romance options in the Old Republic universe, I love the romance with Elara as the trooper. You get to see her grow as a character SO much. She has doubts, strengths, anxieties and all this depth...plus she calls you "my dear" after the romance is completed, which is just adorable coming from a former Imperial who could snap your neck in a second. What's your favorite, seeing as I never played the female side(my wife LOVED Felix while playing as the consular...I had competition from a virtual character for my wife's affections for a while, but Felix is so bloody smooth that I almost understood xD)