What is the hardest thing you've ever done?

[Wick]

Share what the hardest thing you've ever done is. Whether it's learned to dance or came out as a democrat to your republican parents or sexuality issues. Was school the hardest thing? Was it leaving or fighting for a relationship. Losing your pet or family member? Was it climbing Mount Everest?

Whatever you found to be the hardest for you is what this is for.

[TheMusketMan]

Not gonna lie.

I killed a man in Reno.

Just to watch him die.

[SleepingSilence]

Hardest thing you had to do:

came out as a democrat to your republican parents.

@Wick

I genuinely want this to be someone's answer more than anything in the goddamn world.

It's long, so TL:DR. Moved out at 19.

Hardest thing I've done? That's pretty debatable. And it's so long and complicated, I don't really feel like explaining it at midnight. I'm sure no ones cares either. :P

I've had a lot of bullshit happen in my life. Though a lot of my college experience and the retarded internet mob vs me (series 1 and 2). We're obnoxious to deal with but that can be chalked up in hindsight as just a long waste of my time, and some of it was probably my fault even if it was entirely consistent of altruism = suffering.

Middle school certainly was one of my lowest points in life, probably caused me more problems while giving me no actual benefits in the process. But, I'd argue that wasn't "middle school" itself. It was the kids, adults and my parents that made that a miserable experience. Nor was it my decision to go to it.

Though I guess this wasn't either, Hospital/Slowly Dying for about a week at 18. That wasn't fun, am I'm still technically going through it, because it's a lifetime problem...But again, "done" sort of implies your choice in my eye vs. experienced.

So, now there's two (I can think of currently.) that was a "choice" that was the hardest thing to deal with and caused the most problems.
There's one year where I let my roommate's brother's not be homeless and paid the fucking price for it. But though I'd consider that the worst year of my life in general.

But the hardest thing I probably did, was take my parent's threat head on and move out on my own at 19. To attempt to condense in a tolerable size chunk. Parent's threatened to have the cops arrest me, if I didn't move out in 2 weeks time. During this time, just got out of early college, so no money (aside what I had) no job and they would do nothing for me. Unlike most people, I wasn't a pussy and took it as a challenge.

Moved out in less than 1. Not a single irl friend of mine could help nor family member (or honestly even tried.) Sold everything I had to scrape some money together. I got an online friend/stranger I hanged with a few times to drive me to point A. (So assholes, be nice to strangers on the internet. Might actually come in handy if you ever deal with real problems in your life.)

Finding a place to live/move in one week already sounds pretty impossible in hindsight. But I did, moved into the ghetto. Only learned the place was roach infested later. In under a few months, I was mugged 10 times, harassed daily by someone, had a restaurant pulled so much shady shit for the sole purpose of making me not go there. (lawsuit worthy stuff) Was stalked and followed by people, had several people threaten to kill me and/or burn my house down. Assaulted, had my phone stolen several times. And I lived of 50 bucks a month for all purchases, not including the rent. Had no transportation. No real outside help. And I cut of my depression medication that my parents were forcing me to take, cold turkey. Then I lived with psycho recovering crack addict instead. Had money stolen, more verbal abuse, more assault and some more death threats. And in a single day, lost basically every single thing I had from 18 years. All gone. And I also couldn't take medication, that I basically needed to live. (not the sad pills. :P) And that's just what I remember at night and not including lesser important details and ignoring the endless search for a job that never came. I can certainly say I was alone as I possibly could be which I can guarantee you was the worst part. (because at least my other bad years had a cat.)

And, for good measure the only two things I had worth anything, I both lost at the end of this fun time. I had money coming my way, and my dad decided to tell me he'd steal it all and nothing could be done. Thankfully that didn't happen and I was finally able to get out of it. Wasn't a year, so that's why it wasn't my worst year. It was long enough. :/ (also in hindsight, comment is long and this was shorter than I could of made it.)

Also, just to note. I don't regret this choice, because if I didn't do it. I know I wouldn't be living the best years of my life that I currently am. So not looking for pity points whatsoever, I'm long past this event in my life. I can share it, because I feel like it didn't really change me. Just made me grow up a lot faster. I'll always be the kind of person that can listen to a sad story and not go "Well my experience/life was worse." because I'm not a raging cunt. But mind, I am thinking about how ironic it tends to sound from personal experience.

And because the internet is a competition, I look forward to future responses. :P

[SleepingSilence]

Not gonna lie.

I killed a man in Reno.

Just to watch him die.

@TheMusketMan

Lying pattern 101: Putting I'll be honest and not gonna lie before a sentence tends to mean it actually is one. (Jk. Yet is a possibly true statement at the same time?)

I'm almost expecting a punchline. And since it rhymed I will feel stupid if this is a movie quote or something along those lines. :I But I hope it at least was a fun time. :P Since it's relevant. My roommate had to kill a man to survive because he was nearly shot and killed himself, a few months back. Then recently (weeks ago) gets in a (should of) been fatal car wreck. Among other things. He's not been having his best year. ;D

[TheMusketMan]

<Snipped quote by TheMusketMan>

Lying pattern 101: Putting I'll be honest and not gonna lie before a sentence tends to mean it actually is one. (Jk. Yet is a possibly true statement at the same time?)

I'm almost expecting a punchline. And since it rhymed I will feel stupid if this is a movie quote or something along those lines.

@SleepingSilence

*Awkward Cough*



Also, glad your friend is okay.

[Penny]

In one of my early rotations through A&E I had a 5 year old come in who had been hit by a car. She died on the table. The mother was screaming the whole time while we worked even after security managed to get her out of the crisis room. I had to pronounce and I told the mother. They prepare you for it but it was still crushing.

[Vilageidiotx]

come out as a democrat to @SleepingSilence's parents

[SleepingSilence]

@TheMusketMan I knew it! The reason I said something, it because I recognized it from somewhere. Thank you. Was driving me nuts. xP

[Wick]

My Hardest thing

THe hardest thing I ever did was leave the man I had been completely in love with for 23 years and start over. I took only what I could fit in my minivan and left everything else, including my 18 year old daughter. She opted to stay and try to take care of her dad. I got in my van and drove to Alabama to a friend I had met online. After deciding that we were compatible in RL and not just as internet friends we got an apartment together. My daughter came down three weeks later and moved in with us. Friendship became love and my friend and I got married two years later.

[Penny]

@Wick I don't want to open old wounds so feel free to ignore my prying. Why did you leave your previous partner to start over?

[Wick]

@Penny

My reasons

He took a job driving over the road and became hateful and jealous of my being home. He would call 10-20x a day just to scream at me about everything that annoyed him. This was on top of 22 years of not appreciating me and verbal abuse. My kid was an adult and I finally decided I had had enough. Not one person, not even my sister that I am ridiculously close to had any idea. Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself and this was the only way I could do it.

[Mag Lev]

On the same year that my mother divorced my father and move away, I watched my oldest brother who had always been a part of my life for years ship off to Iraq for his first tour. During the time, I didn't know if he'd even come back or if he would die there. He was part of armored infantry so he was definitely at risk of hitting an IED, he did in fact get in a firefight with insurgents and got injured. He then came back with PTSD and his fiancee at the time broke off the marriage. He struggled with his PTSD for a long time and the man who I looked up to hid it the entire time behind a smile.

For those wondering, he is better now. He completed therapy for his PTSD a couple years back, he is now married to a woman far better than his ex, and he has a good and stable life now. He made it back alive and survived, which some veterans don't do. He is my brother, more than anything else, and I was broken after not hearing anything from him while he was on tour.

[HeySeuss]

Career change right after a medical emergency that nearly killed me (not my first, but probably one of my worst), while coping with a hostile work environment -and- learning to handle an anxiety disorder. It sounds more harrowing than it was in retrospect, because I was my own worst enemy here in a lot of ways.

(That's not entirely true, the executive chef was and is a violent lunatic, and he probably was the actual worst enemy. ;) )

I learned that anxiety is a bitch but a lot of people have it. Understanding it helped me to control it. I also learned that knowing when to cut people off is important, though I still struggle with that. That lively sense of 'don't give a fuck about your haters' is an important element of serenity in life. Shutting down the toxicity of others and guarding against it in yourself is probably an evolving fight. Letting it go has a lot to do with that.

Above all, mistakes will be made but learning from 'em is what counts.

[NightinGem]

Leaving my abusive family at 17 years old. My brother was constantly trying to talk me into suicide and my mother just let it happen. He tried to strangle me a few times and the only reason I survived is because my other brother stopped him. The brother who tried to kill me was my narcissistic mother's favorite child, the one who was generally in charge of deciding the rules but also exempt from them--he was also only 12 years old, but very precocious. I was the oldest of the kids, my four siblings ranging from 8 to 15. We'd been through a lot of abuse, but now that we had our own place, the abuse of my mother and brother really came to light. With the help of my therapist and some online friends, I came to the realization that I didn't deserve what I was going through, that the house was toxic and I was not to blame. But when I got out and into foster care, that was it--just me. My little sisters and my other brother were stuck with my abusive mom and brother. They still are. I'm 18 and a half, graduated and about to get an apartment. I've been kicked out of a few foster families, one for "not trying enough to improve my mental health" and one who accused me of turning her son against her when he realized he was being abused by her because of me, and I live in a homeless shelter at the moment. I've talked 8 people out of suicide and watched a man die. But nothing will ever be as difficult as leaving the house I thought was home and leaving my beloved siblings with abusers, and I might never forgive myself.

[Penny]

@NightinGem WOW. That is real heroism.

[NightinGem]

@NightinGem WOW. That is real heroism.

@Penny

Not sure I can call myself a hero, my siblings are still stuck in that place, but I try my best. I seem to inspire people, so I figure I should use that to positively impact peoples' lives? Aaaaargh I sound pretentious as all heck

[Wick]

@NightinGem

No, you aren't pretentious. Sometimes telling your story is part of what makes people get off of their butts and fix their own lives. I've been told by many people that my leaving my ex after twenty years of marriage gave them the inspiration they needed to make changes in their own lives.

[SleepingSilence]

@NightinGem Well there's plenty of parallels to my life (and my roommates.) Just means when I (or you) if we ever have families of our own, we can raise our children without that violence and try to take their problems seriously.

I'm genuinely impressed when someone actually moves out on their own at a younger age, that others make all the same complaints in their life that we do, but never back up their words by doing something about it. So you getting an apartment on your own, may seem daunting and scary. (Certainly was an interesting experience for my first time.) You'll get through it. If you have friends that have stuck with you, do you're best to not take them for granted.

Never feel bad for talking about things like this, depression used to be a thing that was hidden and considered a weakness, but professionals know just how counter intuitive it actually is. I will encourage you to tell people about problems, it's the first step to conquering them. It may pretentious and get a few to laugh that you said "you saved a life" but my friends "saved" mine plenty of times. (and I did it back, in ways that probably wouldn't be understood.) My family cat probably saved me back when I lived with my parents. I say that knowing how sappy it sounds, because back then being a kid and teenager. It was true.

You're not alone in this world and (not to sound presumptuous) but you'll have the best years of your life to come.

Also not to sound confused. (I'm sure you've been asked before.) The shelter have good wifi? ;P (I assume it's a library (my personal favorite) or somewhere else? Being humorous.)

Anyway, wish you the best from someone who went through the motions.

[Ruby]

Eat a cold hot pocket.

[The Elvenqueen]

Pretending I'm okay when I'm really not...but I have to be because I have to keep it together to be there to keep my dad together and if I'm not his emotional crutch I am terrified of what might happen to him

Also having to come to terms with the fact that if I want to save my own mental health I may have to move out and leave him behind with my narcissistic, emotionally abusive and controlling mother. That kills me, every day, and I don't know if I can do it....but if I don't I honestly believe I will spend the rest of my life being an emotional and financial crutch to my parents.

I'm 21. And I don't mean to be edgy or ungrateful or any of that, but I should not have to deal with or worry about the amount of shit that I do, at this stage of my life. I should be worried about getting my own place, getting a steady paid job, meeting someone that I might one day spend the rest of my life with (and that's a whole other kettle of fish but I won't go into that today). Not whether or not we're going to have any food at all for the next week, or whether it's safe for me to go to bed at night without worrying about them fighting again and her threatening him with some other nonsense. I didn't even go to university and aside from money being an issue I wasn't comfortable leaving him to deal with her all on his own for months at a time while I'm away studying. Now I'll probably never go because even if I do end up managing to move out I won't be able to afford it now.

I don't really wanna go into super details but yeah, it messes with my head every damn day and it feels kinda good to spit it out for once instead of pretend it'll just go away I guess :B