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The ultimatum is that we'll get nowhere by being stubborn about absolutes. To be frank, I don't want him dead either. Heck, I would gladly talk him out of his currently broken mindset if I could.
But as it stands the best I can do is try and at least resolve this situation so that something other then fighting happens and we get somewhere with it. I'm not asking you to trust them, or to even like the situation, but I am asking you to at least deal with the situation for long enough so that we have a better chance of not letting Shinji die.
If you bargain with that door open, it's not going to work successfully.