I was just going off, on what I read...and what we planned. No worries, it happens sometimes. So I am a bit confused now, as to me, it wouldn't make sense for her to feel 'pain' when she don't have the mark yet...as it's making her older/connected, when she's not.
We agreed to start with their 16th birthdays, which are 3 years apart. So I did just that.
Not quiet sure, but we did agree she would still look for him when she's older.