Halo said
In the same say I put myself out for your comment, you put yourself out for a response. >_> so please, be more condescending. Obviously it's the person who didn't bother to read the post, then complains and patronises when they're corrected about wrong assumptions, that's the mature and reasonable one here.

I'm just hangan out here tonight and you get the benefit of my company. :) But no, my point was more the level of investment, not the literal act of responding.

I think you're seeing negativity everywhere, but you need to take constructive criticism w/o getting all in a tizzy. And anyone reading this would see you being tl;dr and all teh personal attacks. You need to remember that not every exchange you have needs to be about one-upping or posturing. you feel me son?

also plz, halo, you know you you're not one to call people condescending right? You do know this? Just checking.

I never said I was handling this all super maturely or anything, just that I was being honest with you and have no agenda in my posts.

idlehands said
I also enjoy flirting but it means nothing because I'm married.

Tried to sleep; failed; and I'd rather be known as the guy who writes/cares too much (oh, the horror) than the guy who wants to control all the women in his life, so it's worth it in the end. Plus, shitstorms and rants = activity, which is a bonus. Spam loves mockery. xD

Spam loves shitstorms too.

And double posting. >.>

Actually wish I had the time to read this thread.

Doivid said
I'm just hangan out here tonight and you get the benefit of my company. :) But no, my point was more the level of investment, not the literal act of responding.I think you're seeing negativity everywhere, but you need to take constructive criticism w/o getting all in a tizzy. And anyone reading this would see you being tl;dr and all teh personal attacks. You need to remember that not every exchange you have needs to be about one-upping or posturing. you feel me son?also plz, halo, you know you you're not one to call people condescending right? You do know this? Just checking.I never said I was handling this all super maturely or anything, just that I was being honest with you and have no agenda in my posts.

Yes, I see being told I want to control the people in my life as negative. Yes, I accept constructive criticism, but I don't do it blindly. If someone told me I care too much, I'd accept that; it's true. If they said I can be arrogant, I'd also reluctantly accept that. But if someone refuses to listen/read any of what I've said, then makes assumptions and criticises that are against the core of my ideals, then yes, I want to clarify myself and discredit that accusation. That's not unreasonable, and it's not taking as too personal - I don't want people here to think of me that way, because that's not who I am. That's not posturing, either. I know you won't view it that way, and that's fine - maybe I'll get another "ugh too much words, stop butthurting errywhar". At least I'll have clarified where I stand and how I feel.

>gets anxiety from reading thread

Halo said
Yes, I see being told I want to control the people in my life as negative. Yes, I accept constructive criticism, but I don't do it blindly. If someone told me I care too much, I'd accept that; it's true. If they said I can be arrogant, I'd also reluctantly accept that. But if someone refuses to listen/read any of what I've said, then makes assumptions and criticises that are against the core of my ideals, then yes, I want to clarify myself and discredit that accusation. That's not unreasonable, and it's not taking as too personal - I don't want people here to think of me that way, because that's not who I am. That's not posturing, either. I know you won't view it that way, and that's fine - maybe I'll get another "ugh too much words, stop butthurting errywhar". At least I'll have clarified where I stand and how I feel.

this is more like what I was looking for, not the woah angry blowback. Then again, I could have said it more tactfully. 8D

You may not want people to think that, but you can't stop it. What you can do is look at why people react like that, critically, and determine if it really is some fault on their part, or if you get that reaction a lot, what you may be doing that contributes to it. I thought because I'm not all involved in your life you could take it as relatively unbiased, but I think it's a sore subject for you at this point.

And I'll level with you, this is based on what I've known of you since I came to spam. The parts of your post I pointed out (I did read the rest, just more of a skim tho) were just signifiers of something I'd already noticed.

and hey, if that is something you do, it's just something you gotta work on. It's not a terrible sin.

Look at us getting somewhere now. I'm proud of us, halo.

Blitzkrieg said
Actually wish I had the time to read this thread.

We should all read it and pick a side.

Smiral said
>gets anxiety from reading thread

>Shrek is love
>Shrek is life

Awson said
We should all read it and pick a side.

Then flirt with it.

Doivid said
this is more like what I was looking for, not the woah angry blowback. Then again, I could have said it more tactfully. 8DYou may not want people to think that, but you can't stop it. What you can do is look at why people react like that, critically, and determine if it really is some fault on their part, or if you get that reaction a lot, what you may be doing that contributes to it. I thought because I'm not all involved in your life you could take it as relatively unbiased, but I think it's a sore subject for you at this point.And I'll level with you, this is based on what I've known of you since I came to spam. The parts of your post I pointed out (I did read the rest, just more of a skim tho) were just signifiers of something I'd already noticed.and hey, if that is something you do, it's just something you gotta work on. It's not a terrible sin.Look at us getting somewhere now. I'm proud of us, halo.

Jesus Christ, you are such a massive cunt.

TP said
>Shrek is love>Shrek is life

>black is you
>black is me
>black is us
>black is we

Awson said
Jesus Christ, you are such a massive cunt.

I almost forgot you existed. gosh darnit

Too spicy for this thread.

No one can handle you.

idlehands said
Spam loves shitstorms too.

Yep. Runs in Spams veins. Hopefully it doesn't get cholera.
Look, my, uh, "reputation", or whatever you wanna call it, here has waxed and waned a lot. I really don't mind if a couple of late-night posts get people thinking badly of me again, at least something will have happened. Not gonna pretend it was my secret plan all along or anything, but it's a nice bonus. I post seriously, write long messages, make lots of threads that lots of people can engage with (share your stories, or advice threads, or "lol staying up all night" easy-to-relate-to ones) because they get people talking, and debating, and thinking, and I like talking to people who read and think and share their minds and stories. As long as people are doing that, this place, and it's community stay alive. So what if my bad judgement here gets me a bad 'rep' with teh trendy kidz, it asks people to think, post, comment, whatever. That's why I didn't just make this thread about male vanity, and instead started thinking about it more, and then wrote the long beginning post with my thoughts and feelings in the moment laid bare, and asked others to do the same.
And this post will most likely get more "stop writing so much, how dare you give a shit and put thought into things", or "oh yeah this was totes your master plan, yeah right!" despite me explaining why I write a lot (admittedly, also because I can't sleep) and saying that my intention was not ever "create a shitstorm to make activity LUL I'M SO SMURT". But oh well. Just being me.

Awson said
Too spicy for this thread.No one can handle you.

oh awson, I always remember you hate yourself more than anyone else does and that's just a downer to think about.

how have you been? I saw one of your posts in another thread and I lol'd a bit, but I forget the joke now.

Doivid said
oh awson, I always remember you hate yourself more than anyone else does and that's just a downer to think about.how have you been? I saw one of your posts in another thread and I lol'd a bit, but I forget the joke now.

Tell me more about me.

Doivid said
>black is you>black is me>black is us>black is we

>This is my swamp

Awson said
Tell me more about me.

you wear bikini briefs