Let's B!tch. I feel it's a healthy release for our roleplay annoyances 2.0

[Mirandae]

Is there a way that we can get some kind of list going, a compilation of the 'popular' things that people find annoying?

[Eklispe]

I think a solid top ten for that list would be vanishing people, whether it be GMs, 1x1 partners, or just other players in the rp. Especially when they're still on semi-frequently but they just aren't doing anything.

[Mixtape Ghost N]

GMs that take on a bunch of players and then wait for absolutely everyone to post before doing anything at all.

@Natsucooldude

The best form of GMing.

[Natsucooldude]

People that don't communicate with you at all in a roleplay that's basically a 1x1. Yes, I totally want you to ignore the largest part of my post and force the plot somewhere I iddn't want to go at all.

[Mirandae]

Being ignored for no apparent reason by people you know and/or don't know. It's been happening to me a lot lately, and it's really discouraging.

[BluBlood]

When an 18-year-old comes in wanting a finger tattoo. It's one thing when the person is an experienced adult, it's another thing when someone comes at me fresh out of high school, no direction, wanting a job stopper tattoo.

When someone wants an elaborate, detailed, tattoo that "can't" be bigger than 2"x1". I cannot fit ten pounds of crap in a five pound bag.

When someone tells me they want a wrist tattoo upside-down, so it faces them. I have been really good at convincing folks not to do this for well over a year now. The reason being is I ran into men and women over the years, a bit peeved that their entire sleeve faces the opposite direction of their wrist tattoo. Meaning it looks a little disjointed from the surrounding images.

Blah. Other than that, I LOVE my job.

[Frettzo]

When people drop from healthy-paced Casual RPs because they believe a RP should get what, 2 posts a day at most?

[FantasyChic]

@Frettzo

Wonder where you got that from :)

I agree with you though, even if I wasn't expecting it either.

[FantasyChic]

GMs that take on a bunch of players and then wait for absolutely everyone to post before doing anything at all.

@Natsucooldude

This. So much this! I've noticed it a lot lately too. I can see the RPs in my Sub Box just sitting there and I'm like "So...we got our characters made. You gonna do anything?"

What annoys me to is when the GM doesn't post regularly to see if progress is being made. Just a simple "People still interested? Need help making your sheets?" and that's it. I've seen and had to drop RPs for this because the GM decides to not update anyone anymore. It's not up to the players to get a game started.

[NuttsnBolts]

<Snipped quote by Natsucooldude>

This. So much this! I've noticed it a lot lately too. I can see the RPs in my Sub Box just sitting there and I'm like "So...we got our characters made. You gonna do anything?"

What annoys me to is when the GM doesn't post regularly to see if progress is being made. Just a simple "People still interested? Need help making your sheets?" and that's it. I've seen and had to drop RPs for this because the GM decides to not update anyone anymore. It's not up to the players to get a game started.

@FantasyChic

Got two that I entered. One about 3 weeks ago and it's slow because there's no direction. No reason to really do anything and no goal to aim for. Second one was over a week ago the OOC went up... and still no IC post. Just seems like the quality and commitment of some newer RPs isn't there any more.

[Mirandae]

<Snipped quote by Natsucooldude>

This. So much this! I've noticed it a lot lately too. I can see the RPs in my Sub Box just sitting there and I'm like "So...we got our characters made. You gonna do anything?"

What annoys me to is when the GM doesn't post regularly to see if progress is being made. Just a simple "People still interested? Need help making your sheets?" and that's it. I've seen and had to drop RPs for this because the GM decides to not update anyone anymore. It's not up to the players to get a game started.

@FantasyChic

I don't mean to sound defensive, but this goes both ways sometimes. Active players inspire an active GM; an active GM inspires active players. It's a symbiosis between the two that is often overlooked, in my opinion. People often assume that the Game Master/Leader/Teacher should do everything, but the players/followers/students have an equally important task in that endeavor.

I know that I can get discouraged if my players don't say anything, don't talk to each other, or just sits there waiting for me to keep everyone entertained. So, what you are describing could be a reaction to that. Now, I don't know the context, and maybe it's just the GM, but what I've mentioned here is fully possible.

[AlteredTundra]

<Snipped quote by FantasyChic>

I don't mean to sound defensive, but this goes both ways sometimes. Active players inspire an active GM; an active GM inspires active players. It's a symbiosis between the two that is often overlooked, in my opinion. People often assume that the Game Master/Leader/Teacher should do everything, but the players/followers/students have an equally important task in that endeavor.

I know that I can get discouraged if my players don't say anything, don't talk to each other, or just sits there waiting for me to keep everyone entertained. So, what you are describing could be a reaction to that. Now, I don't know the context, and maybe it's just the GM, but what I've mentioned here is fully possible.

@Prisk

Oh this is so true. I gm a game and I often find myself with half of my motivation sapped cause only myself and 1-3 others post semi-regularly. The rest of the 5+ other players are either just too busy with their lives outside of the guild or just simply aren't intersted in posting, which, as you said, Prisk, is a two-way street when it comes to GMs and how often they post(or rather, what they do in their posts). Like, sure GMs have a responsibility to keep things moving along and progressing the story..that is, to say, if it's a plot-driven RP. If it's a character-driven story, then it's the other way around. The players have the responsibility to keep the story going through character interactions and relationships. If not, then the game is surely to die not long after it started and/or after it entered a rapid decrease in posting frequency.

[FantasyChic]

@Prisk

That could very well be possible. But then let me ask, why not pop up and say something? That's my issue. If the GM is waiting for their players to start up, whether it's an IC post or posting their sheet, why not poke them? My whole thing involving this is the fact that the RPs just sit there in stunned silence with neither player nor GM saying anything. I've poked the RPs too sometimes and gotten no response. Real life may have affected them, as it does to anyone, but a simple post stating such isn't that much to ask. IF you have to stop a RP you have to, them's the breaks sometimes.

Also I have never, not once, been part of a RP where the players had to get the game started, which is what I was trying to drive at (my apologies if I didn't voice that clearly). There's a big difference with people still making their sheets, story and lore getting finalized, and all that apart from getting the actual game started. Keeping the story afloat is different, then yeah, it's a two-way street. However, getting the ENTIRE thing started, I'm sorry, that falls on the GMs shoulders, and again, if something comes up and they can't make it to post for however long, that's fine.

Not trying to argue or be mean either, because I do agree with what you said. Just getting my original point across as I don't think I worded it carefully.

Edit: After reading through to make sure I wasn't missing something, it occurred to me I misinterpreted the original post I quoted. I took it to mean a GM took all the players in and then never started the game. Both situations annoy me, for sure, but yeah, I took it a different direction. My apologies.

[FantasyChic]

@NuttsnBolts

Yeah I had a few RPs die due to that. Not for a lack of trying either. People bumped the OOC thread, people messaged the GM, and nothing. And as stated by a lot of people before this and will continue to do so, RL comes first every time, but seriously, people can't just come on when able to and say something? I've gotten seriously worried about some people, thinking something truly tragic happened to make them just dissappear like that.

[Phoenix]

When an RPer contacts me with interest in an RP I wish to start and states they wish to be a Co-GM when no such position was offered in the OP. Then, I look at their history, to see what they're like, and notice they have done the same thing with every other RP they showed interest in.

To me, this says they want control/authority over just playing the game. For me, I just wish to play a game, but don't care for the way most others run it, so I make one myself. So, to see someone striving everywhere to be a Co-GM is a big red-flag for me. I don't know why, it's just irksome.

Another thing is when I see an RPer post a CS, then follow the feedback by the GM (which is a combination of critique, gratitude, and questions) in a very positive manner, and then the RPer throws a fit on how unfair/biased/etc. their criticisms were. I mean, you're going into their RP where they have clear-cut rules, even if they're still being developed. To be so close-minded and unwilling to compromise with the GM in a mature and level way is as fascinating as it is irritating.

[Fillet]

Another thing is when I see an RPer post a CS, then follow the feedback by the GM (which is a combination of critique, gratitude, and questions) in a very positive manner, and then the RPer throws a fit on how unfair/biased/etc. their criticisms were. I mean, you're going into their RP where they have clear-cut rules, even if they're still being developed. To be so close-minded and unwilling to compromise with the GM in a mature and level way is as fascinating as it is irritating.

@Phoenix

Related: I think many RPers have an assumption that submitting a CS guarantees a spot in the game, never mind their writing styles or what their attitudes are like OOC, if they will fit in with the other players in a team.

[Ammokkx]

People failing to read context in an RP and then their characters do something that is either not fitting to the situation, has nothing to do with it or both. Bonus points if this happens frequently.

[ButtsnBalls]

Related: I think many RPers have an assumption that submitting a CS guarantees a spot in the game, never mind their writing styles or what their attitudes are like OOC, if they will fit in with the other players in a team.

@Fillet

Related: Certain RP'ers have an assumption that posting one word in OOC guarantees a spot in the game, never mind their ever delayed CS or their lack of presence.

[karmacrushh]

I might actually have a laundry list. But I'll try to be concise. (However I'm a terrible mix of Afrikaans, German and Irish, so I may or may not get carried away. Hang on.) Idk if I should go chronologically or alphabetically.

*please note that none of this has occurred on this site, this has all happened elsewhere.

• People not reading my information/interests/expectations. I get messages all the time from people who I know haven't read ANY of the information I have listed, ask for something I've said I don't want, and then continue to hassle me for an rp. If I say no, that means NO.
• Rpers who cannot move a story along, and who do not contribute to the story.
• People who vanish. Every single rp of mine is currently inactive for over two weeks because my partners are not communicating. I don't mind if they can't reply, but the fact that I've had almost a dozen people just fall off the face of the earth without a word is beyond rude, in my opinion. I don't need or expect a novel explaining the situation, but a quick message of "I have to go on hiatus" would be FINE.
• On that note, when I'm asked to start, work my ass off on an intro, and they disappear. Also, when the person has contacted me for the rp, and they disappear.
• I had contacted someone for an rp once, and she apparently had a bunch of rules BEYOND the ones she had listed. So when I asked her if she would like to start or if she would like me to do so. Please note, she didn't ask me to start in her response, her answer was, "Well I have a rule that if you contact me, you have to start." Fine, whatever, I was desperate for rps. We were doubling, and of course, I put equal effort in for both my characters, mine and hers. BUT that wasn't good enough, apparently, and she messages me with, "Hey um I kinda have this rule/pet peeve that you should write more for the character that isn't yours." I was so done. So done. It's not the fact (well not just the fact) that she had these slightly odd rules, imo, but more that she didn't tell me after I had essentially broken them.
• I had someone become frosty and frankly bitchy the minute I voiced an idea they didn't like. It doesn't bother me they hated my idea, but the fact that they turned into an asshole because of that one thing, and didn't have the decency to even be polite about it, set me over the edge.
• This is more just something that's bugging me, but not getting any bites on any of the ads I have listed. I have ads on about a half dozen sites, and I've literally gotten three responses. I know there are people that are interested in what I am, but for whatever reason I am having horrible luck. It's a bit discouraging, honestly :/
• On reddit, I had people almost downvote my post to oblivion because I wanted OCxCanon pairings. I get that not everyone likes those, but that's not a reason to push my thread to the goddamn underworld.
• Being accused of mary sue-ism and self-instertion just because I use OCs. I can see why people would have that concern, but these people hadn't even asked to see information on my OCs, they were just throwing around accusations. I see people always asking for purely romance pairings and similar topics that are much more prone to both tendencies. An OC in a fandom universe is not that bad compared to some of the odd pairing requests I've seen. (This was also on reddit, and I stg the number of rps that people were living through vicariously was insane, so to have someone accuse me of that without any other knowledge and given the existence of these other threads just drove me up the wall).

Oh my god I feel so much better.

[boomlover]

@karmacrushh so many of these things are soooo true !!