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17 days ago
Current and y'all were mad i was out here talking about sucking toes. now you're stuck with this guy. hope you're happy, fools.
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20 days ago
i love your cat more than you btw
20 days ago
not to repeat it ad nauseam but my dating app entry is that i suck toes as long as they're white, baby blue, pink or french tipped
20 days ago
do [img]paste the url here[/img] and it'll work
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20 days ago
used to be a league guy but fortunately i dropped that habit
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Just an Aragorn looking for his Arwen


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@Buddha Is your character a cousin to the leader of the Gully clan or is he a cousin to their children?
I'm a little confused on how to put him on the family tree here.


He's a cousin of the lord. So the lord's brother had a child and that child was Tybalt.
<Snipped quote by Buddha>

As vilageidiot said those are pretty common gag gifts and honestly if it's in the dead middle of what's essentially a party I really doubt people would care.


I'm sure you realize as well as me that this is a specific example and that, with a simple google search, you can pull up stuff that's much less a gag and more or less straight up sexual, my friend.

No I'm not. I actually don't think you understand exactly what it's like to live in this world as a queer person because you, by your own words, aren't. That simple.


I'm sorry, since I'm not queer I'm not allowed to speak?

That'd be easier if we weren't killed for exposing ourselves and assumed straight unless we tell every human being we meet otherwise.


I'm sorry that people assume you're part of the majority.

LGBT people do not have physical traits that set them apart from the majority. What do you want them to do, smell that you're queer? Please don't go there. I can't smell what you are and so I'm gonna address you as what I think you are.

I don't think people that expose themselves as LGBT or so get killed. They may get shunned. Maybe deal with violence. Maybe maybe deal with murder. They're an easy target I'm sure that is true. But to assume that all LGBT people might get killed just for saying 'hey I'm gay' is ridiculous.

No you're right it is technically a mental illness. And honestly I think the only way to resolve the unfortunate issue of the sex change sometimes making things worse is if we were more accepting of the concept of gender presentation not needing to match gender identity. Because fuck if it's not more complicated than people like to think. The sooner we stop running with the assumption you must adhere to this, this and that traits to be a man/woman, the sooner people will be free to express themselves however they wish without having to change things they might not want to change.


So.. if they don't want to change from a female into a male or male into a female, are they transgender? Because you lost me now. The concept of gender seems to be lost on you. What you're describing is not gender. Gender is not a coloring book where you can draw what you want. It's something that we created socially in order to organize ourselves and create labels for people.

The labels happen to be male, female, and transgender.

this and that traits to be a man/woman


This is gender. The stereotypical traits that are commonly associated with a certain sex based on culture, heritage and social norms, combine to form a gender. You can be of the male sex and still identify as a female in your gender based on the concept that if you behave and act like a woman, you have the female gender.

This is just facts. I'm sorry if you disagree, you should become a sociologist and challenge this concept, or otherwise begin writing papers, because this is just how it's been agreed on.

It's not about fixing anything. Like I said it's a celebration.
Rica


I get that. I think you are celebrating the wrong things. I don't want to deny you your party. I just think you'd be better off celebrating other things. And even then I don't care that much. My real sticking point is that it happens in a public space and you're forcing people to look at things that they do not want to see.

Don't get me wrong. I think men should be capable of kissing in public (and they are here in the Netherlands, nobody will say a thing.) but the point where I draw the line is indecency and a single 'gay pride' term in the search bar can show you exactly why. It's the same way I don't really like how we advertise underwear using scantily clad models of either sex. I just don't like it in the public space. And really, do search for gay pride. I'm sure you can understand why I wouldn't like it.

My disdain has less to do with heterosexual people but rather obtuse people who refuse to be empathetic to the point of view of someone who lives a life from a very different perspective than they do because they aren't heterosexual.

Unfortunately most people who can't look past the fact tend to be heterosexual.
Rica


.. I'm confused. How do you expect everyone to see stuff from your perspective? This has nothing to do with being gay or not, this has to do with your inability to deal with the fact that people have differing views.

I'm also not very empahetic, mostly because I really don't care.

Those numbers are also missing one key note If you look at the bottom at suicide attempts, while men are more likely to succeed. Women are more likely to attempt. But men tend to go for methods that are quick and efficient, like guns and hangings. So they're much less likely to be saved and taken to a hospital. The chart above the section on suicide attempts shows that firearms make up of almost half of suicides.
Rica


This doesn't disqualify my theory that the fact that being gay or not has very little to do with sexuality and more with gender, mostly because 5% of women suicides is gay, where as 20% is heterosexual. There's a gap. The roles should be reversed in this case if what you're saying holds true. I'd like you to explain why 5% is gay where as the 20% is straight where as you are saying this is not true.

So you're not wrong, men are more likely to kill themselves. That alone is correct. But gay youth from ages 10 to 24 Are overall more likely to make an attempt on their lives or think of committing suicide which is also directly linked to events of bullying and abuse.
Rica


LGB youth are 4 times more likely, and questioning youth are 3 times more likely, to attempt suicide as their straight peers.


says nothing about being bullied.

Each episode of LGBT victimization, such as physical or verbal harassment or abuse, increases the likelihood of self-harming behavior by 2.5 times on average.


I'd like to know if this holds true for 'victimization' in general. I happen to think that bullying in general raises the chances of self harming by 2.5 times on average, RATHER than just for LGBT people.

Gang related murder and crime is it's own can of worms because it's not hate crime related.
Rica


This doesn't mean that being LGBT is just an aggravating cause that raises the chances of getting killed. If we're gonna label every murder on a LGBT person as a hatecrime then the list would be very big. But we don't do that, because sometimes people get killed over something OTHER than their sexuality.

LGBT's are not the biggest group of people currently being murdered. There are certain other lifestyles and jobs and such that carry risk of death with them. Such as being a cop.

A cop has a higher risk of dying than normal people. You can be a gay cop, making your risk of dying even higher, despite the fact that these two things (being gay and a cop) are not related at all.

The truth of the matter is the worst 'category' to be in right now is Transwomen. They are far more likely to experience hate crimes and death and sexual violence than any other group. Especially if you add race into the mix. Since black transwomen are even more at risk.
Rica


Yeah, nice try. Read your own folder. This folder categorizes 'hatecrime' as crime against lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender,
queer (LGBTQ), and HIV-affected communities. And therefore that automatically means that this statistic, WHILE TRAGIC, has nothing really to do with what was being said. You're miscontruing these folders to fit your agenda.

What is actually being said in this folder is that out of all the LGBT people + HIV community, trans women are most likely to experience violence. Which is sad. But that doesn't really mean anything for the discussion we are having.

And unfortunately hate crimes get worse immediately after laws are placed to protect or give these groups rights to match everyone else. Such as the sudden rise in murders against transwomen (particularly people of color) after a law was enacted to included gender identity in hate crimes
This is unfortunately common seeing as it also happened when same sex marriage was legalized in the US
Rica


It's sad that America is lightyears behind Europe when it comes to this. I'm sorry for the people that suffer because of that.

People don't want the government treating us like people. That's just a fact. They get mad when they afford us the same rights and hate crime status because that means we're being accepted. Not much else I can say about this except for the fact that the acts of the few should not account for the thoughts of many. I'm sure there was public outrage at these murders. Either way, this is an American situation, and does not happen where I live. .. thus making gay prides even more unnecessary, because there is accordingly nothing to celebrate about surviving.

Here's a article addressing the findings about bisexual women and rape/domestic violence

This is something both heterosexual and queer people have an issue with outright. We (generally) are absolutely horrible to bisexual partners. It's most likely due to some very unfortunate and false beliefs about bisexual people causing resentment. A lot of gross beliefs that they're just greedy, they need to 'pick a side', don't even get me started on the 'gold star lesbian' crap (basically you're a gold star lesbian if you've never been with a man).
Rica


Can't say I relate. Seems like an issue that's particular to the US because I've never heard of this before.

Very interesting stuff. I'll read on it some more.

How does one get 'greedy' when it comes to sex :/

I can in fact be proud of both my achievements personally and the fact that I've made it this far as a queer person. Pride isn't really a one or the other. A lot of us have considered suicide, myself included. Is there really anything wrong with celebrating life?
Rica


And I can support being proud of that.

I don't support being proud of being gay in and of itself. Being proud of surviving, yes, being proud of 1 thing that doesn't define you (like being gay) is not so much a prideful thing for me.

Have you considered many straight people also have considered suicide, myself included, for issues that were not related to sexuality, but were still issues?

I do see them. And while I'm just as guilty of being mildly frustrated with straight people (Again this is mostly due to ignorance of the fact we are different and that's ok. We don't have to be just like you to be ok.) The idea that they need to die doesn't sit right with me.
Rica


And I'm mildly frustrated with LGBT people for not accepting some things are just the way they are (talking about the fact that people will call you a man if you look like one, even if you don't 'identify' as one, because we can't smell that shit). Doesn't mean I dislike LGBT people. They're just people, so I don't really hold them accountable for their group.

@Vilageidiotx covered this one for me.
Rica


Must be an American thing. We don't have any parades at all, basically gay pride is the only thing here. Well, maybe the two other times you'll see a blocked off route is for a marathon or for Kings/queensday.

I also wonder why Americans are so obsessed with heritage and culture. Most Slavs living in America are barely Slavic at all. Most Irish living in America are barely Irish at all. It seems like some vague attempt at getting glory and/or something to be proud of because you are lacking in personal achievements.

Polish people moving to the Netherlands often celebrate culture behind closed doors. Outside of the doors, they're Dutch. That goes for many minorities, LGBT included.

@ColorMeEvil Hell yes bro.
You know I told myself Hex, you are going to keep this one short and sweet. I failed dramatically to keep it short but hopefully it is still a little sweet. It's not that long don't stroke that ego, boy

Review in red.



There's some things I need to see addressed in the jutsu section but asides from that it's a pretty good character. Address the issues in the jutsu's and feel free to make any other changes before putting it in the bin. @Savato will also do a review as far as I know.


@Krot Genjutsu is used through the senses, so it doesn't really have anything to do with 'touch' so much (okay, that one is one that you can dodge because smoke is intangible) but more like sound, smell, taste, ummm, anything like that, and also chakra.

Genjutsu comes forth from either senses or foreign chakra inside your own chakra paths. So if I inject chakra into you, you will still have my chakra inside of you despite being in a smoke form (because your chakrapaths still remain otherwise you'd die.. lol)

Similarly unless your character literally has 0 senses while he's in his smoke form (can't see, can't hear, can't smell, can't breathe) he will always be susceptible to sensory based genjutsu. For example even in his smoke form he can see, therefore any genjutsu that begins with a motion (say, me snapping my fingers is the 'key') your character will see that and thus be affected by the genjutsu.

Because sensory genjutsu are 'easier' they are also less powerful (so for instance, switching left and right is something that can be done with a finger snap, but you can't cast a infinite tsukuyomi with a finger snap, logically.). Therefore what he is saying is that unless your character has 0 senses, and kills his chakra paths (and thus commits suicide) he will still be susceptible to genjutsu...

Genjutsu is fucking stupid and nobody really knows how it works, but this is the gist of it.
@BCTheEntity Golden Fleece is waiting on Hillan.
The clan sheet is optional, guiz.
@Rica Why do you celebrate in the way that you do? A simple google search for 'gay pride' already shows images of dudes licking phallic shaped lollipops, dudes dancing around with nothing but some shorts on and just generally things I don't want to see in public.

NOT BECAUSE THEY ARE GAY. Because it's shit that I don't want to see.

If I go around licking lollipops shaped like a vagina that'd be a little fucking odd don't you think? I've told you before specifically the reasons why I think celebrations in public in the way that they occur are fucking stupid (mostly because they're not enforcing acceptance or encouraging unity, but rather enforce non-unity and segregation and separation.)

But I am actually interested in what you have got to say because I don't agree. Let's go.

@BuddhaThat's not what it is. You can keep ignoring the point of sometimes being openly gay in and of itself is a accomplishment because you don't live in a area where it's even mildly acceptable all you like but it still happens.


I'm not sure what your point is because your words are jumbled but from what I understand you're saying that because I am European I shouldn't get to speak on what I think of gay prides? I'm sorry. We have gay prides and I have attended them. Violence against homosexuals still happens (I highlighted specifically how/why in the last post but I can do it again; people are generally acceptive of people that are not straight or whatever, but Muslims in particular have a hard time accepting it. A close second are skinheads who also don't really like 'different' people but at the same time skinheads are also often the people who don't care so that's a double edged sword.)

This report is in Dutch and it states that violence against homosexuals nearly doubled in the past years.

Sounds bad right. No, it raised from 600 odd to 1100 odd. (Source in Dutch).

Over a populace of 17 million people that's really not that much. But it's there and we face it. (Also I think the definition of violence against homosexuals is weird in the Netherlands; it includes cussing at for example. Sorry, if you can't handle being cussed at and need to file a police report for that, maybe you should stay inside.)

Also please stop putting words in my mouth. I never said I don't see the point. I said I don't see the point in taking pride in your sexuality. I don't mean you can't be proud of being gay (though frankly I find that weird, I'm not proud of being heterosexual because that's just who I am) I mean you shouldn't be proud of the fact that you are sexual.

It's the difference of being proud of surviving hate against homo's, and being proud of being a guy and sucking dick, or being a girl and eating pussy. That's nothing to be proud of.

I got lucky. Very lucky. I know this. I know I'm privileged to have a family that doesn't care and loves me and was essentially just waiting for me to work it out on my own.

But that's just it. I'm lucky and I still deal with a lot of issues from others and society due to being queer.


More power to you. I'm happy for you.

That's not even touching on my best friend who's mother denies he's transgendered. Or his partner who's mom is fine with anyone else being queer but them.


Anecdotal evidence at best but I'll bite. Yes, a lot of people (specifically in USA, if we're gonna ignore countries like Arab countries and African countries) are not accepting. This is a fact of life. The way to acceptance is in my opinion NOT having a gay pride, it's fitting in and showing you are just as human as the next person.

At the same time transgenderism is a mental disease (that makes it sound bad, but really, it is.) Your brain feels like a woman/man when your sex is the opposite. There is a cure namely a sex change. I think that transgender people deserve all the help they can get in this process, however I want to remind you that the amount of people that commit suicide after a sex change is very high (because often the sex change isn't what they 'wanted' so to speak) so this is kinda a weird issue.

Regardless I hope you can understand what I mean with this. Not saying that transgenders are 'ingrates' or anything. They are just mentally not well and need help to fix that.

So can you kindly stop ignoring the idea that we're celebrating a life we're leading that has been full of suffering but we're still here.


Oh lord, you have a life full of suffering. Self-pity is a wonderful thing isn't it. Everyone has issues. Again, get over it. I don't see a 'depression pride' anywhere. It's fucking baffling how people think having a parade can fix anything at all. It doesn't fix anything.

And before you say it: yes straight people have issues too. It just so happens that their issues don't have anything to do with sexuality. But I've seen you speak on hetero's before and your tone is generally filled with disdain (non intended, I'm sure, as you seem like a relatively nice person otherwise.) so I'd like to ask you to reconsider your stance ever so slightly to compensate for the fact that everyone has issues, not just you.

Because not all of us makes it that far. Especially seeing as the amount of abuse and bullying we can suffer (not always but can) makes us far more likely to commit suicide in our youth.


There are lots of things that can make people commit suicide. You should see the suicide statistics.



For example being male already gives you statistically triple amount of chance to commit suicide.



Correlating slightly to the previous image. I'd seriously like to see a study that shows the differences between LGBT suicides and 'cishet' suicides. Because there is none according to me an what I see here.

The fact of the matter seems to be that men commit suicide more often, with gay men and straight men making up 3 quarters of the suicide demographic which seems to infer that the main driving factor for suicide is in fact GENDER and not SEXUALITY as you'd like me to believe no?

Interesting sidenote: whites are noticeably more represented in suicide demographics.

Not to mention we're more likely to be killed. Or how bisexual people are more likely to suffer from domestic abuse.


Your first suggestion seems to infer that you're the most likely group to be killed which is actually not true. It's certainly an aggravating factor though. I like to think people that are in gangs are still more likely to be killed but what do I know.

I'm not sure on the bisexual thing. If it's true I'd like to know why the factor that they are bisexual specifically makes it more likely. Could be true.

I could keep going. Hell I can even provide the numbers if you'd like.


No need, I did it for you, but you can counter me with your sources if you want.

We have everything to be proud of.


Arguably, I never said you have nothing to be proud of. But if you are choosing your sexuality (AKA YOUR SEXUAL ACTIVITY) as a thing to be proud of then I would like to ask you why your life is so bad that you have nothing else to be proud of. Ever won a medal? Be proud of that.

We as a community suffered so much and we fought and we came out stronger.


I'm sure you did.

That's worth celebrating.


I agree. Behind closed doors. In a venue that is rented off. You know, like all other minority groups do?

Let's forget the whole straight-pride aids fest because I agree that's just stupid, as I am against 'pride' in general. Straight-pride is just how people deal with the fact that they're being vilified (which is true, you should see the tumblr posts that some of these gay-pride/LGBTQ+++ drama queens make stating all hetero's should die, right?).

Think for a moment about another minority. What other minority gets local parades? I can think of 1. Black people have 'black history month' which arguably is just as stupid as a gay pride. That's all I can think of.

If you want to be equal, then be equal, and do as we do. As everyone else does. Celebrate your gayness or whatever the hell you wanna celebrate in private with the people who also want to celebrate.

Don't shove it into my face. I am happy for you that you've succeeded in life but fuck, I don't wanna see grown men walking around with bondage equipment around their chest licking phallic shaped lollipops. I'm sorry. I just don't want to see that, please fucking respect that and have some decency.

@Kho I think this little argument has already put literally every character against every other character, which is what I wanted. I'd hate if we all became 'council of friends' and did our best to promote stability and friendship.
@Krot Seems fine to me. Move it to the char bin.
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