naptime

Let's B!tch. I feel it's a healthy release for our roleplay annoyances 2.0

@pugbuttersee, my worry is that this hyper-invested attitude of mine has made me seem intensely clingy and neurotic, and that this is what is scaring off my potential RP partners, even moreso than my amateur writing and unflattering characters.

but like here's the caveat okay
i can only too quickly make the admission that i myself have historically been guilty of serial disappearing. I don't want you to get the wrong idea and think i've never done this (especially what you outlined in your own post, with people leaving profiles and then never showing up). in my case, it was the result of an unstable mental/emotional state (i am bipolar, and used to go through periods where i would get bursts of energy and join all of these things, stop sleeping, etc then find myself hopelessly overwhelmed and exhausted when it ended), sudden complications in my outside life, or writing-based anxiety (which i struggle a great deal with). but, look

- i'm not saying my disappearing acts weren't shitty -

during these times i broke down and left the whole SITE (this was gaia, which wasn't primarily a RPing site), you know, i wouldn't be cheerfully hopping around other threads or - god forbid - joining new RPs
i left the INTERNET, i would be wallowing sunken-faced in my room pouring hours in to animal crossing or sitting in inpatient or something
i usually SAID something before i left, especially if my partner and i were already exchanging replies
i didn't just fucking--
...but i understand how people can bite off more than they can chew, and end up sacrificing whatever they're the least caught up in
especially if they haven't posted IC yet, if they just have a profile or something, i can see why they might just avoid saying anything. whatever.
it's still hurtful. and it still messes people (you, hi, you're a person) up. And they really ought to at least say something...

What Are You Listening To?

Let's B!tch. I feel it's a healthy release for our roleplay annoyances 2.0

this is not about anyone on this site, I just brought these worries here when I moved over

When someone for whatever reason doesn't want to continue partnering with me, but won't say so or tell me why, won't explain where I went wrong... instead I'll just see them posting around or making new threads without any word at all from them. They just ghost me. This is so hurtful and demoralizing... Two days will pass and I will tell myself, they are still getting around to it! More and more time will pass with them active on the site, and I will begin to worry. Gradually over the days I will begin to panic. Was there something wrong with my post? Was there something wrong with my character? Did I say something wrong? Should I ask if something is the matter, or is it too soon? I would change anything they needed in order to post, they just have to tell me…
But I never get a response. I feel like I have failed. Like I am a terrible writer, all my ideas and characters are kitsch, garbage, fit to gag on. I feel as if I am detestable, too intense and unlikeable. It is so hard for me to write. I have so much anxiety and doubt caught up just in my own writing, and to send it to someone else and receive a non-response …
I just want to know what I am doing wrong, because this is every time now and there is never any warning. I just want to know what i can change. Or maybe I am not fit to RP, I should not be writing with others. Fine. Tell me that. But do not do this. Please do not ghost me and waste my time. It is torture, it takes me so long to give up the benefit of the doubt and it makes me feel so awful … :(

New to RPGuild; Looking for a mentor

Howdy! Have you seen the anime Oh My Goddess? I've been keen to do a similar story, in which the male lead inadvertently contracts with a powerful and lovable young woman to live with her for the rest of his life.

@Thinslayer

Do you have any interest in a more platonic story idea? there could definitely still be light romance, if the winds blew that way, but it wouldn't be the premise. Maybe something involving travel, or exploration?

i am so sorry for saying "i'd be up for almost anything" and then stepping back on my word like this. I thought i would be - honest! - but for some reason it didn't occur to me that that would include romance... I just wasn't thinking.
if there's a less 'dovey' story idea you have in mind, i would really appreciate it. Romance is... well, i have some hang-ups about romance.

maybe tmi

i must admit that i have never watched or read Oh! My Goddess, though i have heard of it. The premise never appealed to me - it seemed to lack conflict.
predominantly romantic stories - especially ones without inherent, driving conflict - have never been my strong point. Ok, actually, romance terrifies me...it's something i've actively avoided in my own life, and i just don't have a lot of experience in it.
The characters i've played up to this point tended to be grotesques - selfish, abrasive, or just insecure and emotionally guarded, usually with a slightly off-putting physical appearance or first impression. As an aside, I do tend to play girls, but, well, if they do have a love interest, it's usually unrequited feelings towards another girl.
(I'm still totally willing to play mxm or fxm relationships, for the record - though fxm does make me nervous)
Stories of unrequited love, troubled or former relationships, or a buried romantic undercurrent between rivals or enemies are a little easier for me to swallow in terms of romance, if i'll be honest.

i just want to say that i appreciate you taking the time to reply and pose a plot idea. Thanks for being patient with me.

Hello! I'm new here !

so @Slav, how did you come across this forum? What originally drew you to the idea of RPing?

Hello! I'm new here !

hi welcome slav i am also new

we can be new together <|:o)

New to RPGuild; Looking for a mentor

Hi. It's been a long time since i really RP'd (successfully, anyway). I feel like it's probably best if i didn't jump right in to a group RP - i don't want to drag down an entire thread if things don't work out. Instead, i was sort of wondering if anyone would be willing to 1x1 with me in a relatively unstructured - but at least somewhat literate - environment, where i could get back in the swing of things.

I can be known to write rather densely - too densely, in fact - but please don't let that trick you in to thinking that i expect you to do the same. In the end, i want to try to match however much you want to write. Otherwise, it's not much of an exercise in cooperation, is it?

I'm up for almost anything, i think. I'd sort of be looking for whoever else to lead things.
edit: I should have mentioned this before. that's my fault. I'm more than a little shy about heavily romantic settings. Please still feel free to pose the question - there's no harm in asking - but i figure you ought to be made aware, if only for the sake of your own time and energy.

feel free to ask me anything you need to in here in order to figure out whether you'd be interested in this.

I really appreciate it.

hi i'm new here AMA

So! Some generic roleplay questions! What's your favourite genre? How long have you been roleplaying and what got you into it? Do you have any particular fond memories or experiences you'd like to share?

@Mae

my favorite genre? hm... if i'll be honest, i'm not sure. I tend to prefer RPs with a high level of one-on-one interaction, because i enjoy that dynamic and find that introducing too many RPers in to a single scene rarely works out well. I've never done a 1x1 before, but that might be fun. I haven't successfully RP'd for more than a week or so at a time in something like five years - people /always/ flake - so i can't really say for sure where i'm at now.
There are definitely some marked preferences i have, but they're not genre related. I really hate using face-claims, and prefer instead to describe the appearance of my characters. I'm willing to bend on this if i really want to join the RP, but it hurts.
I also have no patience for fancy posting formats, because i feel like it's a lot of effort to go to and then i have this expectation to write something that fits the overblown nature of the format, but... well, i'm just uncomfy about it, you know? It feels very...presumptuous. The quality of my writing isn't so great that it deserves a crazy format.

How long have i been roleplaying? Well, i joined gaia in i think '06, and i'm pretty sure i started RPing there almost as soon as i found the forum. I don't remember what originally got me in to it, except that i guess the idea of it must have appealed to me. My early writing and characters are - as i'm sure you can imagine - something of an embarrassment to me now...

particular fond memories or experiences? Well, one time i joined a walk-in with this grody antagonist character I'd made up - they looked all nasty and ugly and wore a hood, their arms and face were covered in bandages, and they talked like a creepy old aged man and ate people. Anyways, she was a fun character to play, and went over remarkably well with the other RPers, for some reason. But what i didn't realise at the time was that the mainstays of the thread were all playing characters from the original My Little Pony show. by some miracle, i had never watched or seen any of that so much as once up to that point (though i knew, of course, of its existence), so here i was, for over a month interacting with these strange, childish characters (and people) who had put me and my character on this pedestal as some kind of literary genius, until eventually all the clues sort of clicked together and i was like "wait... are megan and tirek from something?" and they were all like "watch this" and linked me, like, the entirety of this bizarre little show from the 80s or 90s - in german - with magical technicolored ponies...

so that was fun!

Palladium Academy (Yet another superpowered highschool rp)

aw shoot :(

and i already had the beginning of a character in mind, too

hi i'm new here AMA

Welcome to the Guild, naptime! What is your favorite musical artist(s)?

@Cyndyr

oh, thank you! i'm still sort of getting my bearings, but you seem like nice people. :)

yikes, my FAVORITE musical artist? you mean, like, overall?
that's a real toughie... i listen to a really wide variety of music. i'd go so far as to say that my taste is pretty undiscerning.
Well, statistically speaking, this year my most listened albums are probably Velocity : Design : Comfort by Sweet Trip and Stratosphere by Duster. Stratosphere in particular is just an incredible experience to listen to in one full sitting. They're both "zoner" albums - a passive listening experience, the sort of thing you'd have playing while you're stoned or writing something. That's how i consume most of what i listen to, actually.

beyond that, I guess i feel pretty strongly about Mac Demarco and Stereolab right now?? It definitely changes from day to day, but there's a lot of music i love. This is probably a question you could ask me every day and you'd get a different answer (with the same preface)