I ask a girl out. She says "No im a christian, and you arent. My parents wouldnt aprove." 2 months later i post on a website that im looking into wicca because i foun it interesting. She within the hour ask me if i want to go get donuts with her sometime, or catch a movie.

My mind= pew pew pffFfft!

Can anybody (preferably a female) explain this logic? I know its only drama, but im genuinly confused.

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Also, id like some feed back on long distance relationships. On a high school level i know they rarely work. But what about college? Do I got a chance here?

Just some general feedback about that would be peachy.

Prepare to be made fun of. Not be me, of course.

Anyway.

People are going to say all kinds of things about LDR's. Just know that it's different for everyone. You're going to have to form your own opinion from experience. But don't get too attached.

Hah, it doesn't require a female to figure it out. I doubt she somehow psychically knew you'd been interested in Wicca. So most likely she's simply had a change of heart or priorities and has decided that you not being Christian doesn't bother her, and that it doesn't or shouldn't bother her parents. People and their feelings change - she never said she didn't want to go out with you, just that her parents would disapprove. Presumably that barrier has now been removed, either because the parents said they wouldn't mind or because she decided her feelings shouldn't be dictated by her parents' prejudices. Maybe she's rebelling against them or maybe she's just come to that conclusion rationally. Just roll with it, dude.

Long distance relationships are, generally, a bad idea. You have to be a certain, rare type of person to be able to make it work. but in my view, you aka have to be at a stage in life where you have the ability to see one another sometimes. In college, you may wellbe too skint or have too little time to do that, depending on how long-distance we are talking. Without the financial and time autonomy you'd need to do that, you never see eachother, and that really does make it impossible. Also, you both have to go into it with a mentality of actually ending up physically being together one day. You have to be committed to it. If you can't do that, it won't work. You need to be heading towards something, and have a realistic way of making that happen.

Go with her, don't think about it just go.

LDRs are extremely fucking difficult but they can work if both people are really committed.

Emotions are a filthy weakness. Why can't you just be blank and emotionless like normal people?

Larfleeze said
Emotions are a filthy weakness. Why can't you just be blank and emotionless like normal people?

Stoics are the best.

Fuck LDR's.

"Yeah let me sacrifice opportunities to be happy and enjoy myself at college for a person I'm liable to break up with in the future."

LDR's are for hopeless romantics and people who hate themselves.

I kinda agree with Sable, in particular since you are just out of high school & heading into college (hoping that atrocious writing in your post is just laziness for your sake). Why get tied to someone not physically there when it is time for you to explore the new adult word around you.
Again it's different for everyone but you might regret it or end up cheating or being cheated on. Depends on the situation of course but I'd avoid it unless both of you could visit every weekend at least.

LDRs are easy as fuck.

Just bang 'em when they're here and cheat when they aren't.

There, your asshole comment for this thread.

I agree with Awson 100%, but I do want to input that she sounds like she would only be the cause of stress if you dated her.

Sable said
Fuck LDR's. "Yeah let me sacrifice opportunities to be happy and enjoy myself at college for a person I'm liable to break up with in the future."LDR's are for hopeless romantics and people who hate themselves.

Fuck, guess I'm a hopeless romantic who hates himself.

Cpt Toellner said
she sounds like she would only be the cause of stress if you dated her.

This is the most crucial bit of advice you will receive. Disregard at your own peril.

Cpt Toellner said
I agree with Awson 100%, but I do want to input that she sounds like she would only be the cause of stress if you dated her.

Doivid said
This is the most crucial bit of advice you will receive. Disregard at your own peril.

Throwing my hat in the ring here.

If shit isn't happening naturally and it's already causing you undue grief, imagine that multiplied if you started dating.

Thanks guys, advice apreciated. We skype pretty regularly (every 3-4 days mostly.) if your advice is to NOT attempt this, how would I go about telling them? I cant imagine a successfull conversation where i say "Yeah i was second guessing our relationship so i asked people i dont know to throw hatfulls of advice at me, and the general concensus was that we wont work. Id like to try anyways, but now i dont think this wil work. Sorry."

notdeadyet said
Thanks guys, advice apreciated. We skype pretty regularly (every 3-4 days mostly.) if your advice is to NOT attempt this, how would I go about telling them? I cant imagine a successfull conversation where i say "Yeah i was second guessing our relationship so i asked people i dont know to throw hatfulls of advice at me, and the general concensus was that we wont work. Id like to try anyways, but now i dont think this wil work. Sorry."

"l8r d00d"

notdeadyet said
Thanks guys, advice apreciated. We skype pretty regularly (every 3-4 days mostly.) if your advice is to NOT attempt this, how would I go about telling them? I cant imagine a successfull conversation where i say "Yeah i was second guessing our relationship so i asked people i dont know to throw hatfulls of advice at me, and the general concensus was that we wont work. Id like to try anyways, but now i dont think this wil work. Sorry."

You probably should have thought about that BEFORE asking strangers on the internet for advice on your relationship.

I wanna berate OP but I don't have my mean pants on

BrobyDDark said
You probably should have thought about that BEFORE asking strangers on the internet for advice on your relationship.

You're an idiot.

OP: You don't have to tell them that you asked others for advice. You can just say that despite your feelings for them, you just don't feel you're emotionally ready or at the right place in your life to commit to a long-distance relationship like that. If they're worth your care and time as a friend, then they should understand - it's better this way than to "lead them on", so to speak.

Smiral said
I wanna berate OP but I don't have my mean pants on

r u wearin ur docile panties bby ;)

Smiral said
I wanna berate OP but I don't have my mean pants on

Laundry day?