[OOC] Beyond a Fire's Embers

[Genkai]

Candy is the true meaning of holidays. And maybe booze.

Thanks. I also need to start looking for my own apartment for next year but ehhh I am in no hurry to deal with roommates.

Oh crap, well I posted. I can skip/edit if you want me to? Or if you wanna skip us in your post, that's cool too. ^^;

[mmidnight]

I have a little something planned for Haymitch, but I can wrap up the birthday part if you want. If you want me to do the full skip, I could end with them waiting for the results in the suite but I have a feeling that would end up being a massive post. Whatever you're comfortable with is fine with me!

[Genkai]

If you wanna take another round for the party, I'm happy to do so. I think we're back in the groove of things. ^^ If you want to make a massive post, you can go ahead or skip part of the way and I could help pick up the slack so neither of us are doing too much expository on our own. If you wanted to skip to right up to the point of them preforming, I could take us the rest of the way? Again, I'm cool either way since it looks like we'll both be getting at least another post or two in before bed tonight~

[mmidnight]

I don't want to skip too far and write you into a corner or anything. I think I'll end the party for us, and then get us set up for their performances. After you post, I'll fill in what I need to for Prim and Haymitch. Idk if I'll post again tonight. I have two threads to do, one of which has been waiting on me since Thursday since I'm a terrible partner, haha. And I really wanted to watch Into The Woods later AND Call The Midwife is about to come on.

[Genkai]

Okay, don't worry about writing me into a corner, we never really have too much trouble moving things along/around. I'll follow your lead, I trust ya. And don't worry about posting, I hope you enjoy your movie plus your show. I'm almost all caught up on my stuff on here so whenever you get a post my way, it shouldn't be much of a wait. But yes, go tend to the one waiting longer, that's what I'd do cause hey, guilt lol

[mmidnight]

I don't even like that RP, haha. I tried to drop it once but it really didn't work out. So now I just drag my feet and post like twice a week, if that. But yeah, these other ones a shortish and come really quick. If I can get them done before I'm really tired, I should still be able to fit in actual Disney prince Chris Pine being an actual Disney prince <3

[Genkai]

I should be able to get a post to ya this afternoon, we're looking at two possible houses this afternoon but other than that, nothing else is on my plate. ^^

[mmidnight]

Awesome. Hope you see something you like!

[Genkai]

The two we saw sucked ass but my mom wanted to put an offer in anyway, thank god she didn't because we found a decent place that we can remodel ourselves, if we can get it cheaply enough. And I finally got my books for school. I also found out I can use my tablet in two of my classes so that means I should be able to pop online a lot more often. ^_^

Now I'm just finishing your post this morning so I can get it to you, I'm sorry it's been delayed. >__<

I hope you're well, hope any pain in your hands are minimal. If you wanna talk about anything, totally feel free~

[mmidnight]

Yeah, I'm fine. Good luck with your house!

[Genkai]

Thanks, how've you been doing? ^^;

If you wanna call or anything, I've got time today.

[mmidnight]

Shitty, tbh. It's rained all week and I've been in a lot of pain. One of my partners is pissing me off to the point of tears and I just generally hate everything right now.

[Genkai]

Really? *hugs tight* I'm sorry to hear that. Rain after some good weather can really be a downer, I hope it's clearing up though.

I'm sorry to hear about that partner, if you need to vent or ramble or anything, I am here for you. We can talk shit or whatever you need. ^^

[mmidnight]

We have two threads, right? The first one that we started came from her approaching me. We got along really well OOC and eventually, I asked if she had any interest in a second thread based on what our first one was about. Similar subjects and all that shit. So she says yes and I start the thread and she barely ever replies to it. For every three posts I get on the first one, the second thread gets MAYBE one a week. I'm sick of one thread being favored over the other and isn't it good RP manners or some shit to never do one thread without the other if you have two? Why leave one hanging? And if you didn't want to do it in the first place, then why did you say yes? And it's not like she doesn't like the other pairing because as she's kept me waiting since TUESDAY, she PMs me and goes, I need more [pairing] fics. Recs? Like, are you kidding me? How about you reply to our thread if you want them?? So I give her some recs because I'm a stupid pushover and she goes, OH I HAVE MY POST FOR [PAIRING] DONE. I JUST NEEDED TO DO SOME RESEARCH FIRST. And because I'm a stupid pushover again, I just said okay. That was yesterday. I figured she would post that night but lol nope.

So because she keeps pulling this bullshit with me, where the first thread is clearly her favorite and the second one is the redheaded step-child, I've been ignoring the shit out of the first thread in a lame, passive-aggressive attempt to show her how shitty it is to wait for something for no fucking reason. AND I DON'T THINK SHE'S EVEN NOTICED.

[Genkai]

Fuck that, that's why two threads is a no-no. One will be loved more and someone is gonna get upset and just hearing that pisses ME off. That's some stupid bullshit right there. If she's struggling with RP #2, just suggest dropping it or changing it so it's not so low on her list of stuff to do. You're invested in both and she's not. That's not fair to you AT ALL. There's no reason why she's keeping you on the hook and going at a snails pace. Has the slow second thread been going on for a while or is there any chance she'll get into a better "groove"?

As your friend, I say drop the second one because if they're not into it, it's no use forcing it. It's stupid she agreed to do it in the first place but someone has gotta own up and say it's not working out. Or you need to say she's being unfair and to try harder to give posts the same attention because ya know, adults should be able to communicate issues or at least scale back one RP if the other needs more care and attention.

That's really a shit situation, I can see why you're upset. You took a risk and she's not giving you the same effort and what's worse is that she can't even tell there's an issue.

I mean, if I see an issue with us, I try to resolve it. If you're not happy, I'm not happy and then our RP and friendship suffer.

Adults fix problems. Your partner needs to see there's a problem and fix it or you should go back to one thread if you can. Juggling two is tricky and the other person clearly doesn't get how hard it is to do two with one person, it's like putting more of your heart on the line to make two awesome stories and then one suffers. It shouldn't suffer, a posting routine should develop but clearly it's not and it means you have to put up with more crap and stress/worry/grief and that's emotional crap no one needs. :(

I've had that happen to me so I understand the feeling. I hope you can try to make amends and not deal with that because it's doing you more harm than good. *hugs tightly* If you give me their address, I'll go leave a bag of dog poo in their mailbox cause you know, that's the right answer when you step back and think about it XD

[mmidnight]

No, not really. We started it in the beginning of January. It has 58 posts. The first one that we started at the end of December has 163. I could understand the wait if both of them were super long threads, but they're not. They're maybe 400 words a piece and with the second one, her posts are always way shorter than the first thread. If I happen to have both at the same time, I never reply to one without the other because I don't want her to think I like one better even though I do. The first one is just lame but the second one is MY pairing and I like it better just because of the characters. I've never once replied to the second one first, or not replied to the first one at all. Why she thinks this is okay is beyond me.

I don't want to drop it. It's so hard to find someone who likes this pairing and she's the first one I've ever found on a forum. I'm just sick of being upset over it.

[Genkai]

Have you tried talking to her about how you're more doing the first one for her and how the second one is more your cup of tea? I've found if writers do make two threads it's usually because both people favor them differently and if that's the case, it's better to be honest about it so that both interests are being served fairly. She should know you like the second one and that it's unfair of her to write less one something she agreed to do.

Being upset is understandable and favoritism is petty. It's tiring to be in a cycle of excrement and then annoyed and then upset, she should know that what she's doing is making you uncomfortable and that you're not obligated to keep up with the first thread, but you're doing it out of politeness and friendship and that she should be doing the same, for the second one, if nothing else. If you wanna keep both going, you should do so under the agreement that you both favor the opposite but should strive to give both the same attention/effort or it's an arrangement that's only gonna get worse and continue to hurt feelings/expectations and I don't want that happening to you. :/

[mmidnight]

I haven't talked to her about it. I don't want her to think I'm just there for the second thread. That's another reason I never reply to it first even though I want to.

And I just found out that she's totally oblivious. I made a blog post about how upset I am and she messages me like, YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE TREATED THAT WAY <3 like, bitch YOU are treating me that way. ru kidding???

[Genkai]

If you enjoy both, that's even better but sometimes (I've found) when people make two threads, it's said up front each writer prefers x/y thread over y/x thread but I'm glad that's not the case since it makes things less complicated.

But you need to tell her what's up! She's clearly not taking a hint so just tell her you want more love in the second thread, it doesn't need to be emotional or anything, just a gentle nudge might be helpful for them. Say you like both but feel like she's constantly dragging her feet with the other thread, maybe due to lack of confidence or comfort but that you want more progress? Would that be possible?

[mmidnight]

I just asked her about it, so we'll see if she what she says. I told her that I'd still do the first thread, and something else about how the second one gets less attention.

I'm in pain, plus shark week and now this. I feel awful and want to hide from everything.