<Snipped quote by Caits>
To be frank, when I have had family like that, I've told them exactly how it is. The rest of my family may not have approved, but you have an obligation as their family to be as brutally honest with them as possible if they're ever going to improve. And if they don't like it, well, it's not anything you can change.
I've said it all before to my mother and father, but then they see it as I'm the bad one.
I've said it to my brother, that he isn't very nice, that his selfish and a jerk when he was having a go at my mother. And he turned it so he was the victim "my own sister! How can you" crap.
My mothers like "I can't cut him off completely" and I'm like well maybe if you stop enabling him, but she doesn't see it that way. He's going to kill her, but she doesn't see it. A lot of her stress comes from him.
I can say it all until I'm blue in the face. It won't make a difference. Perhaps the worst part is I practically kill myself to make things easier around home, but if I don't do one thing or forget to do one thing, it's "you never do anything around here to help me out" and then my brother swoops in to "save the day" and he's the best person alive. I'm like...I do everything...I'm studying...can't I be human?
I've said this to them before and they're like "oh I know o know, and we appreciate blah blah blah" but then...sigh
It will be better when he's gone again