I know how you're feeling, Last year when my sister died, I told my parents and my two brothers that I wouldn't be going, got some weird looks from them. I just wasn't ready at all, and even a whole year after I still don't feel ready.
Just do what you feel helps, fuck those that don't respect your decision.
Magic Magnum said
That's also another thing that puzzled me.How at a funeral people think they're being nice and considering by constantly swarming you at the funeral.I'm pretty sure when someone is grieving they'd want to, I don't know? Greive!?Not play host/hostess to everyone else there.
I personally hate that swarming effect, it's really annoying and doesn't allow me escape in my mind when I need to.
However, my brother(youngest) he likes that feeling that people ask him if he's okay and that reassure him he's gonna be fine. People react/feel/think differently.