B!tchfest: a healthy release for our non-roleplay annoyances.

[Antarctic Termite]

Jokes can be a complicated medium with significant social swaying power. They are a tool we use to deny agency. That means we have to treat them with caution. Taking jokes seriously while still laughing at them is not a bad thing. It is something we should feel obliged to do. A joke about illegitimate authority can help break the illusion of invincibility. A joke about a vulnerable minority can devalue what they have to say.

[TheEvanCat]

Everyone's failing to realize I'm an introvert, and are getting in the way of my dayoffs.

Next week my dayoffs will only really exist to be Friday.

Why you ask? Starting college, already getting dem nightmares of having a late assignment already, and the requirements there are that I need to complete 67% or more of my classes, and score above a 2.0 GPA

@BlackDragonSol

College is easy, you can get a 2.0 if you have a pulse... And even if you don't, sometimes. Don't stress it! Take it from me.

[Vilageidiotx]

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College is easy, you can get a 2.0 if you have a pulse... And even if you don't, sometimes. Don't stress it! Take it from me.

@TheEvanCat

When I was in college my method of studying was often to flip through the books real quick while sitting outside of the classroom waiting for the class before mine to get out. Got a decent enough GPA anyway if nothing else.

[Dinh AaronMk]

My method of college seems to be retaking classes because something somewhere fucked up and that class was a pre-requisite for another and I have to d redo everything so I can finish.

I need an adviser.

[Vilageidiotx]

Advisers are the used car salesman of the college world. They just sell you crap you don't need.

[Dolerman]

[Rica]

people who always have something to complain about need to learn to shut the fuck up sometimes

I left one pan in the sink I used last night

I was going to handle the dishes tonight since there was quite a few

still shut the fuck up and stop whining at your partner about how fucking awful i am

stick a goddamn cork in it and GET OVER YOURSELF

[Wade Wilson]

people who always have something to complain about need to learn to shut the fuck up sometimes

I left one pan in the sink I used last night

I was going to handle the dishes tonight since there was quite a few

still shut the fuck up and stop whining at your partner about how fucking awful i am

stick a goddamn cork in it and GET OVER YOURSELF

@Rica

this is me on so many levels

[Rica]

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this is me on so many levels

@Wade Wilson

I swear to god they always have something to bitch at me for

ALWAYS

I can't go one day without hearing something or another that I'm doing wrong

I'm going to set myself on fire to escape this nonsense.

[Wade Wilson]

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I swear to god they always have something to bitch at me for

ALWAYS

I can't go one day without hearing something or another that I'm doing wrong

I'm going to set myself on fire to escape this nonsense.

@Rica

set them on fire instead, i've heard it's easier
but ppl always have something to bitch about unfortunately. the brains of some are too tiny to comprehend anything else.

[Rica]

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set them on fire instead, i've heard it's easier
but ppl always have something to bitch about unfortunately. the brains of some are too tiny to comprehend anything else.

@Wade Wilson

I'm literally just

we're all going to die some day

dishes are not that big of a deal

can we not whine like children over it

[TheEvanCat]

I found that if my peers and I are not complaining, something has gone horribly fucking wrong. Like, so horribly fucking wrong I'm too busy doing damage control to bitch about my knees or my fatigue. That's how embedded the cynicism is.

[Cyndyr]

I found that if my peers and I are not complaining, something has gone horribly fucking wrong. Like, so horribly fucking wrong I'm too busy doing damage control to bitch about my knees or my fatigue. That's how embedded the cynicism is.

@TheEvanCat

This is the truest shit I have ever seen. It's like how people say they're fine when they really aren't.

[tathgon]

I don't know. I think 'I'm fine' is quite a decent response under most circumstances. :p

Most people don't push back against it as being okay, good, fine... is the norm. Anything outside of the norm typically receives a negative response. And who really wants to say that they aren't okay? That something is wrong or that they need help? Burden another with what is supposed to be 'their problems'?
_{*sigh* Am I really saying this... fuck it... i guess... Also, color of the background for those who wanna.}
Is it right? Situationally... depending on the people, time, and other small things that play a role in how we decide to do things. But I guess the question becomes:

Do you push and try to get someone to open up when you know something is wrong?

[TheEvanCat]

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This is the truest shit I have ever seen. It's like how people say they're fine when they really aren't.

@Cynder

I really meant like I'm hypothetically getting shot at or something. Then I'm too busy to complain.

[Rica]

@Cynder I find that's because it's easier to lie and say you're fine than unpack all the bullshit that's actually bothering you and risk upsetting the other person/people involved.

Especially if they believe they've done nothing wrong to upset you somehow.

I lie about how I'm feeling all the time but that's because I really don't have the energy to unpack the fact that my roomies hold me to a higher 'roomie' standard than they do each other.

Because they don't see it, I know they don't. So they'll refuse to even conceive they might be doing something wrong.

[Cyndyr]

I really meant like I'm hypothetically getting shot at or something. Then I'm too busy to complain.

@TheEvanCat

Oh, I suppose that makes more sense given what we know about you. My bad.

@Cynder I find that's because it's easier to lie and say you're fine than unpack all the bullshit that's actually bothering you and risk upsetting the other person/people involved.

Especially if they believe they've done nothing wrong to upset you somehow.

I lie about how I'm feeling all the time but that's because I really don't have the energy to unpack the fact that my roomies hold me to a higher 'roomie' standard than they do each other.

Because they don't see it, I know they don't. So they'll refuse to even conceive they might be doing something wrong.

@Rica

I'm the queen about lying about myself. I mostly lie about my problems to not appear weak and not because of other people's involvement. If they ask and they want to get involved, that's their deal. If they don't want to get involved, I don't expect them to. And if they do get involved, then like I said, that's their deal and I can't really stop them.

[TheEvanCat]

To both of you, real talk incoming from the dude with a Hello Kitty profile pic:

The problem with this is that problems aren't weakness, nor is seeking help or assistance to deal with it. All ignoring it or bottling up does is degrade effectiveness by not addressing core problems. Believe me, I've been there enough to realize that it's better to just rip the bandaid off and deal with shit before it starts getting worse. Bottling it up and lying about it did nothing except get me deeper into shit creek, so I decided to grab the bull by its nuts and get the help to deal with it. If you don't, then you get into impacting personal performance, which gets into organizational/school/work/career performance, and you don't want degraded operational effectiveness. It just spirals like the shittiest roller coaster you can imagine.

You need to expect your friends to start helping because they're your battle buddies. And they will, because they give a shit: I guarantee it. They're the guys and gals who will fucking drag your ass out of a burning car or some shit, and your wellbeing (physical, mental, whatever) is more important to them than you might realize. If they'll make you soup or some shit while you're sick and tell you the work you missed that day, then you can know they'll address some of the more lowkey invisible issues (or find someone who can.) But nobody can ask about it if they don't have that intel that lets them know something's wrong.

If someone else is bothering you with something, talk to them about it and settle it there instead of accepting it. If you think they won't understand, come through with a well-planned way to make them see your perspective. Most people are rational, they'll understand. If they don't, escalate it higher in a rationally proportional measure. My roommate wouldn't clean his shit so we talked about it and now he does and stops making me do everything. You just have to try.

TLDR, it helps to stop cheating yourself and just go over the top. It might take a lot of energy and it might be unpleasant and it might be scary as all fuck, but it will solve (or at least start to solve) whatever's actually causing these problems. They tell me the quickest way out is through, wether it be jumping off of a thirty foot tower into the water (I'm scared shitless of heights, by the way) or something personal like talking to my girlfriend about trust in the relationship. It's scary and it takes huge amounts of effort to do, but it's worth it in the end.

[Rica]

@TheEvanCat Trust me if it were that simple I SO would. I used to be able to but there's one massive detail that makes this impossible.

I live with a couple.

Which means they are constantly more lenient and kind to each other but have far less patience with me.

Because they are each other's priority (as it should be. That's a couple thing.)

But it makes them utterly blind to the unfair treatment because of that priority.

They won't see it because they see it as putting each other first.

[tathgon]

@TheEvanCat Trust me if it were that simple I SO would. I used to be able to but there's one massive detail that makes this impossible.

I live with a couple.

Which means they are constantly more lenient and kind to each other but have far less patience with me.

Because they are each other's priority (as it should be. That's a couple thing.)

But it makes them utterly blind to the unfair treatment because of that priority.

They won't see it because they see it as putting each other first.

@Rica

You're turning the possibility of them noticing what they put you through into an impossibility simply by not doing anything.

I don't wanna say you haven't tried to voice your aggravation/frustration with the situation to them, but saying that your roommates are rational and understanding people (which they very well may not be, idfk); they may very well know what they do and aren't doing anything because you aren't complaining.

I don't know what the situation is entirely, nor do I want, like, a complete rundown. It just comes down to trying to see if they understand. The easy things in life are not always the most fulfilling. Taking a risk or doing something difficult can have far greater reward.