@Dawnscroll And just remember for the future; a relationship built on a saviour complex just can't work. It's more or less as Mutton said. People with deep and dark issues can be mysterious and alluring, it can be tempting to jump in there and be their light, it can be tempting to say to yourself, 'all they need is a decent human being in their life,' but it just never is that simple. Don't go in there, especially not if you're hoping that your presence will drag out of whatever pit they're in.
What you should do is find a friend - someone in whom you see something that you would like to see in yourself, and who sees something in you that they'd like to see in themselves. Someone who gives and contributes to your personality and life as much as you do to theirs.a
(and don't be afraid to do the Kho and forget relationships yeah, don't do that, humans need love and all that, don't be a grumpy old grouch like Kho)In any case, can't say I've had on of the cheating business happen to me, but I can talk about partners with deep, dark issues and beautiful families who loved me all you want -_- and I may even hesitantly add, and I hope you'd forgive it: 'mate, you might have just dodged a bullet.'