IRL you vs Internet you!

[LittleMouse]

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Too bad. I've been looking for someone who could get as much into worldbuilding as I can for ages. Like just being able to craft a universe together with someone and spend endless hours analyzing it and finding new details to fit into the greater story would be amazing.

Still, if you ever feel like chatting send me a message and we'll see if we can find some common thing we both like to talk about.

@PPQ Purple

Ok

[DELETED jdl3932]

I hide how much of an asshole I am in real life because it would only hinder me, whereas online in a lot of places I don't. That's about it. Could I be better? Sure. Have I tried? To some extent. Has it worked?

Eeeeh...

Other than that I don't say much in real life, unless I'm around people I actually like, if I don't need to, preferring to be left to do what I need to do without interruption.

As for which I prefer, well, since there isn't too much of a distinction other than me repressing part of my nature I figure that question is kind of moot.

[Dark Cloud]

Well I guess you could say I'm a misanthrope and a bit asocial because I don't like making new friends because I have lost friends due to my actions and words IRL even though its unintentional. I'm like trying to be funny here and make light of things. I would say I like Internet me rather than myself IRL.

@Blackmist16

I'ma bout to rephrase myself:

I'm a misanthrope and asocial IRL. I find social interaction tiring and emotionally draining. I never be myself around people I feel the need to be accepted by and will do anything to make them like me. But since the pandemic I have been able to change that and realize that I have been used by people to get ahead themselves. So I decided I would rather not talk to anyone but my family and very few close friends IRL. Online I am very social to the point where I exhaust myself.

[Lyly]

Easy. I'm an introvert offline, and extrovert online.

[Galaxyfighter4]

I'm more social online. That's the biggest part. The reason I'm online so much is because I have anxiety that does one of two things to me-become really edgy and aggravated or the angst makes me appear confident when really I'd rather jump off a bridge. I mean shopping and joyriding is nice but sometimes I like to play the quiet game a little.

Besides having patience online compared to irl I am lazy to both ends.

If I had to judge myself I'd say I am courteous and observant. And also impatient and deal with things a little too hard.

[stone]

I guess I'll throw myself in!

In person, I'm loud, friendly, and unreserved. I'm myself almost 100% of the time, and people's first impressions of me are usually the same impressions they'll keep forever! I love talking, meeting, and learning about new people! I'd say I'm the first person to say hi to a newcomer, introduce myself, and make an effort to get to know them. I'm in a position where I have to meet people, so I might as well make the most of it!

Online, I think I'm actually more reserved. I'm especially a lot more polite on a forum than I am in person! There's a lot that's lost through text - facial expressions, body positions, all those little social cues that tell how a person feels. As such, I feel like I'm better off starting polite and gradually relaxing rather than making my exact self clear right at the get-go. Of course, once I really know who I'm talking to, all barriers are down and I'm just as chill as I am in real life :)

Though, I do consider myself an introvert. I LOOOOVE talking to people and navigating social situations, but I recharge alone.

[Cpt Toellner]

No difference.

[rebornfan320]

So in real life, I am quiet, reserved and introverted and struggle to find words to say sometimes so I come off as shy along with quiet but I am a open person to talk to along with honest so I am nice and caring in that regard. I don't smoke or drink at all.
I am a pacifist preferring to not resort to violence and to talk things out with people but will only fight if pushed/provoked. Difficult for me to feel like I can speak and get across a point I want to say for a reason I have genetics wise. I like to laugh and joke around with people I trust.

I can remember faces better than names like at a 55-45 percent ratio of the two really, I do have IRL friends [some I talk to more than others] and when I was working I got along with my coworkers fine.
I avoided to “hang out” with people because before people never wanted to spend time with me in that manner. I try to be as supportive as I can despite the lack of positivity happening in my life.
My schoolmates and coworkers would likely call me the “nice one” or “smart one”.

When I am on the internet, I can be friendly still, I wear my heart on my sleeve too instead of guarded due to negative experiences as I just want to have the good experiences happen/stick around for me like how friends do. I try to make friends and I do get a bit of them but I feel like everyone who speaks to me OOC hates me for the viewpoint I have because it is not like a singular one like everyone else.
Though it is still a goal for me to be able to find those good experiences.

[Darth Cognus]

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And that is a ... bad thing? Like there are entire youtube channels that make a living doing that.

@PPQ Purple

Like your previous statements on OOC activity and how the site tends to be slower, a majority of roleplayers (I think it's fair to say) will distinctly cap off as far as how often and how deeply they get into the roleplay. A common case is how overthinking it to every detail and describing what could possibly come next results in people going '...I just wrote it all out, where's my muse to do it now'.

I do it myself to a point, but like anyone else I have a different cutoff and in recognition of the above, I prefer to keep certain things vague so there is a romance to actually writing them. I might have just done that myself where all the thought tricks me out of muse to do it again, as I busy myself quite a lot in hobby - and as you've also touched on before, it boils down to different priorities where you want to make the roleplay and/or worldbuilding the single mainstay and I have it as one of several hobbies in the pot.

RL wise, I do a good amount of stuff, but I tend to avoid people. Poor temper, a few psychological issues, can't stand a lot of folks just in general. So I cultivate a life of other things, real world and online.

[PPQ Purple]

RL wise, I do a good amount of stuff, but I tend to avoid people. Poor temper, a few psychological issues, can't stand a lot of folks just in general. So I cultivate a life of other things, real world and online.

@Darth Cognus

That I can understand.

This said, I honestly think that issues of any sort aren't a predicate for this. I mean, I don't have issues and yet frankly I find it much easier to be social and honest online than in real life simply because in real life the vast majority of people are simply unlikable. And in real life there is zero you can do about that where as online you can just detect those people and ghost them if they start to get annoying and find new people that aren't.

Plus there is the fact that online we all tend to congregate in groups with shared interests and personality types to a large extent. And it's just easier to like and get along with other people who share your interests and hobbies even if they are otherwise unlikable individuals because you have something in common.

[Darth Cognus]

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That I can understand.

This said, I honestly think that issues of any sort aren't a predicate for this. I mean, I don't have issues and yet frankly I find it much easier to be social and honest online than in real life simply because in real life the vast majority of people are simply unlikable. And in real life there is zero you can do about that where as online you can just detect those people and ghost them if they start to get annoying and find new people that aren't.

Plus there is the fact that online we all tend to congregate in groups with shared interests and personality types to a large extent. And it's just easier to like and get along with other people who share your interests and hobbies even if they are otherwise unlikable individuals because you have something in common.

@PPQ Purple

All quite true. Individual folks have their respective reasons, issues for me is one of them but is not for many others. Many others are also far better proper writers than I've ever managed, so we all have our spectrum.

[ODAberration]

On the internet I'm whoever you want me to be.

In real life I'm the default male character with stats distributed evenly.

[Ammokkx]

I can't really answer the question of "how are you online vs. real life" with any one, precise, clear answer. Not because I lack the ability to do introspection, _{(although now that I mention it...)} but rather because who "I" am is entirely dependant on the person that perceives me.

Everyone has their own biases and perception of the people around them and construct identities of people inside of their head- whether conscious or subconscious. If you ask what kind of a person I am to my friends, I wouldn't doubt you'd get a varied array of answers. There's probably a number traits that could and would overlap within the individual answers, but I don't think you'd get one particular trait that everyone thinks of on their own.

This extends to me, personally, too. I can do a dissection of my own character all I like, but that isn't going to stop it from being coloured by my own biases about myself- whether positive or negative. The answers I give now would also, most likely, not even be the same answers I'd give three years from this point.

The only thing I can say with certainty is that I am different IRL to online- but I wouldn't be able to tell you in exactly what way that is. I like to have a sense of humor in both personas, but my humor is different. I'm shy on both ends, but it manifests in another way.

That isn't even to mention that I don't just differ IRL to online- I differ in IRL to IRL and Online to Online too. I just don't act the same way around my family as I do my friends or my fellow university students. I don't have multiple personalities; there's only one Ammokkx, but the personality that is there is ever-changing based on the individual situations I find myself in. I'm mean to people, but I'm not mean to everyone. I'm also nice to people, but I'm not nice to everyone. I'm patient with some, not with others. I don't have a consistent personality, despite being a consistent person.

This post doesn't really have a conclusion, or point to make. It's word vomit.

[RainyHigh]

As many others said, I'm way more social online or in writing (even IRL) than in person. For example, texting my IRL friends is way more comfortable than calling them--even before the pandemic hit. I'm awkward online and IRL, but w-a-a-a-y more awkward IRL when talking to people I don't know that well IRL.