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Why Is No One Joining My RP (General Advice Thread)

@stone
Stone, I am sorry but I have to hold it against them. For me, I am tired of being tossed aside and ghosted on over and over again in contrast to people that I have seen not face or run into these hurdles that I am constantly seeing as I deal with one hurdle but another pops up and it seems impossible to actually catch up and get to their success.

It's one of the reasons why I take RP's very seriously as I want to be valid as a potential partner but also as a person as I feel whenever I bring up something it is always swords and pitchforks and not like understanding or any sort of relatability. I feel like I have to always be on the defensive whenever I feel like I am not heard and I have to be offensive and continue to push my side until I feel like people understand me instead of feeling like people ganging up on me.

It's hard for me to see another human behind the screen as not selfish or cowardly for ghosting when I have it happen to me time and time again to the point I feel like I am just being toyed with on an emotional level when it comes to me wanting RP interest like everyone else but never get it at all.

I can't let go and move on from what seems is an injustice to me, ghosting is dishonorable and an injustice to me because they took the time to display interest but I feel like they need to own up to their initial interest and commitment needs to be upheld to me and my view Stone. It's like how can I when experience has been unkind to me time and time again and also other people?

Why Is No One Joining My RP (General Advice Thread)

@fledermaus And there is your one zinger

Why Is No One Joining My RP (General Advice Thread)

@Kuro
My plan is to make a RP thread as I want the same shot as everyone else. But the first year I was getting ghosters at the rate that felt at the time similar to the second site I roleplayed in and the rate there was absurd at the rate of “ghosting” I was getting and I got tired of it because I kept trying only to not feel like I have gone anywhere forward in ending this feeling.

Ghosting is wrong to me because I want the same effort as I put in into the IC's. 100 percent effort and I want 100 percent commitment and it is bad luck because it seems like no one likes the same things as I do apparently no matter how diverse I keep it.

Why Is No One Joining My RP (General Advice Thread)

@TGM
Well you have that lack of perspective TGM. Your words are not helping at all. I feel I have been trying everything and been listening to advice but nothing changed or worked. And you are wrong.

Why Is No One Joining My RP (General Advice Thread)

And TGM...You sound so full of yourself and you obviously lack any sort of perspective all along. I say my side and you continue to prove you are against me without understanding me or my side at all as you jump of the plank and assume without reason.

I have been listening and yet past advice doesn't work and this new advice I doubt will as from what experience with it has shown me that it won't, maybe you try to open your mind and eyes.

Why Is No One Joining My RP (General Advice Thread)

@stone
Stone, adding your weight to this is not a bad thing. For me, it is nice to have people that can understand how I feel. I tend to rp with partners and not groups because one I joined here just died too quickly for me.

I feel I have been trying for 3 years now since I joined here, it hasn't gotten any better. I feel like it got worse. My RP luck and even finding those of interest just seems as barren as a desert and as false as a mirage.

I feel no one is looking at the point that I have been continuing my efforts and trying to look with IC's I had before but I got them deleted because like the others, they got no interest no matter the bump or edit that I did to them.

For me, I just seen myself as the one getting ghosted and with no explanation as to why. Being left hanging on starting phases of RP's and even starting them only to never get an answer back from them is one of the reasons I fight so hard against ghosting because I feel in my perspective it is dishonorable and cowardly to do that to someone and to constantly having to put up with it no matter what advice or action you take and still not get a long-term RP partner is very demoralizing.

I asked myself this and it stems from me seeing everyone else, I have been so vexed with ghosting that I feel like no one can relate to me because as I try to fit in it is like the black sheep effect and I don't feel like I fit in interest wise with everyone else in contrast to seeing people who have it easier than myself. I know if you saw the prior post I don't need to explain more of dead rp's within a year of joining here.

My Idea on ghosters

To me, ghosters need to be accountable. To me they can own up to their interests and their claims that they made? They owe the effort also when they make their interest known. 100 interest means 100 commitment and i expect that.

Why Is No One Joining My RP (General Advice Thread)

@Blackmist16
Blackmist, you are not the only one to be pushed around. I have been called a retard, been lied to and even been taken advantage of too [not sexually].

I feel like life for me has been nothing but bad and with very few good points in between and even if then the good vibes are always yanked out from under me and back to where I started too.

I have a developmental disability known as Autism too and people have treated me differently because of it too.
I just wonder how could I be happy if something I like doing is just filled with nothing but bad luck and my efforts aren't getting me anywhere to that good spot like so many others and actually stay there?

Why Is No One Joining My RP (General Advice Thread)

@TGM I'm not doing pity parties. That is false labeling and shallow in my opinion. Though I don't know you well at all but I don't think you understand what it is like.

Why Is No One Joining My RP (General Advice Thread)

Well I don't understand it other than them getting people's hopes up only to bail on others that have it happened to me. I don't think it is melodramatic or off-putting because I am tired of having it happen to me time and time again as I want my fair shot but only to get shafted. I disagree with Fleder [nothing against you].

I am not going to stop roleplaying. I feel that would be giving to what everyone is telling me what to do when it comes to this as it feels like no one gets my side you know? I think I can never be happy and that eludes me in other areas as I feel I have no choice but to continue pushing desperately just to be understood and even to have my side looked at while wanting a fair shot. I am tired of just having the tablecloth constantly yanked out from under me because I am trying to get a fair shot like everyone else on an uneven playing field.

Happiness for me is basically a mirage like even a good RP even if I post an IC, I'll never obtain what any of you guys got. Good luck and consistent interest is in the same realms as a mirage no matter what I do. I don't have the options of everyone else as they got it better than me.

Why Is No One Joining My RP (General Advice Thread)

@fledermaus I feel I do need an explanation as to why they would do such a dishonorable thing to do. From my experience, people just do it and ghost for no real reason outside of doing it knowing they can do that to people after getting them hyped up from sharing the same interest. Though I wish everyone looked at me in a way as I'm not an unpleasant person but just rather frustrated of having it happen again and again with no real end to it despite what I do effort wise.