Okay, dropping my two cents into this one. Been reading through it for a bit. I have gotten a lot of back lash over the last years here on this forum for the way I run things. Both right to my face and behind my back (funny how people think what they say to someone else won't get back to me, it usually does in the form of screen shots from Discord to PM's) - either way it doesn't bother me and I find it funny. Especially when it is from someone who has never Rped with me.
Outside of my rules the biggest thing I get backlash for are my CS's. I have been at this for a long time. Over 30 years Rping, over 20 years GMing. I do vet Rpers by their past posts and actions, who are in the past works towards who we are today. Don't get me wrong, even an Rper that has burned me in the past usually gets a second or even a third chance if they go for it. If they change, awesome, if they don't you can bet they will be blacklisted and if asked I will pass along my past experiences with the Rper.
My Cs's are overly in-depth and I know this. Part of that is a vetting process. Part of that is because I am a huge believer in if you don't have a fully fleshed out CS you cannot stay true to your own personal character vision. Refer to ~
Staying True To Character Concept~ for more on that. It pretty much speaks for itself. You have to have a well thought out character and a way to stick to it if you are going to evolve the character over the course of an RP. Your starting CS is only the jumping off point. It should be updated regularly over the course of an RP.
Outside of a way to get an idea of an RPer, how dedicated they are, and give them the first tool they need to stay true to that character... Sad to say but it is there because I don't trust Rpers. Some will blatantly make up shit on the fly to work it in if they are seeking romance or an over powered character. This has been a huge problem over the years and I guard against it. If I have it down on paper so to speak, I can nip that in the bud. I am lucky, I have an amazing group that I really don't have to worry about anymore and a select few I could easily go "Just give me a name and a physical description" and know they aren't going to betray my trust. Thing is, I run the same rules for everyone. It doesn't matter if you are someone I like, someone I don't know, or someone I loath - you will have the same rule and IC treatment as everyone else. You have to if you are going to be a good GM in my book. So everyone has to fill out the monster CS.
Will my ways work for everyone and in every circumstance? Hell no. And they aren't meant to. I found what works for me and after nearly 4 years under this name I am not changing it. I have multiple completed RPs, several that have or are currently running for more than 3 years straight, and haven't had a single RP die on me since 2016. (And even those weren't true RP deaths, they were still running and we chose to stop them to jump ahead into another Rp that was tied to it further down a timeline.) I do what I have to make sure my Rps last and stay strong. Again, my ways don't work for everyone and they shouldn't. It would get pretty damn boring out there if everyone did it the exact same way. We all need variety.
As Dervish said, good thing about this forum is that it is so large that if you don't like the way someone runs things or how you have to fill out a huge Cs for them, you don't have to. You can find someone else on the forum that is more aligned with what you want to do and what you want to achieve in RP. Or you can run your own. My biggest issue is people bashing others for the way they chose to run their RP. If it works for them, or even if it doesn't, who cares? It is their RP and if it makes them content to do it that way, let them. That is what Rp is all about. To enjoy yourself and to try new things. There is a Gm out there for everyone and if there isn't a Gm out there that works for you, host your own.
Granted having said all this is rather pointless as those that agree with me don't need convincing and those that don't aren't going to change their minds from a single post, but hey I do love an exercise in futility.
Alright, that is enough. Happy Rping/Gming.
Lady A~