I guess all I can say about being anxious about OOC discussions is, have the confidence to state your opinions and stand by them, and be willing to change that opinion if you're presented with a reasonable argument/evidence. I get very nervous when I talk about something that's bothering me in the RP and I've reacted defensively in the past, but there's this saying, (I'm heavily paraphrasing) "If you don't speak up for yourself, someone else will speak for you, and you might not like what they have to say." The more tense discussions usually come from some combination of a) Reacting defensively and interpreting comments as being aimed towards you specifically, 2) Posting your very initial reaction, 3) Not making the other person(s) feel like you understand where they're coming from, at least a little. You don't need everyone to agree with you, but if you're really concerned/bothered by something, no one will ever know unless you say something. And by not saying anything, you might think you're alone in your feelings (or you might make someone else think that way), which is a pretty shitty feeling to have.This RP takes all of us getting along and communicating effectively, it can't thrive if more than half of us are afraid to have a serious discussion about it.
I read up on the IC this morning but I need a refresher, I'll be getting a post up soon.
Edit: Between this chapter and my mom constantly trying to get me to move to Las Vegas, I'm looking forward to being done with casinos after this, haha...