So Boerd said
How does an old coot yelling naughty words at you violate your sanctity as a human being, but losing your mother does not?Do you have some right to not be insulted but no right to a mother? Let's get our priorities straight. Pick any 100 people off the street and ask them which they prefer.Aren't you being selfish for telling the bigot he cannot walk around yelling his foulness? It is his mouth, why can't he say anything he wants that causes no physical harm?
Racism =/=
Naughty words. Using words like "fuck" or "shit" is non-derogatory in nature; it's an exclamation of pain or surprise.
Racism is done with the intent to dehumanize and disassociate, to treat someone else as a lesser individual, or indeed, as simply being a tool, for an element that is entirely uncontrollable and irrelevant to who they are as a person: Their ethnicity.
Someone dehumanizing you via racism is an act
against your person done for the purpose of devaluing you as a human being. It is aggressive, an attack.
Losing one's mother to suicide is not an act against your person. Your feelings are irrelevant ultimately in that it is her body, and thus, her decision. It is
not aggressive, it is
not an attack.
Get
your priorities straight: You cannot tell someone what it is they should or shouldn't do with their own body. In an idealistic world, there would be no suicide, and no racism, but this isn't an idealistic world, and blaming the person committing suicide for how you feel about it is beyond disrespectful.
Pick any one hundred people off the street and ask them which they prefer on topics like homosexuality back in the 50's and you'd get a pretty much universal answer on that: It's wrong. Argument ad popularim is not a valid method by which to construct a logical argument, it is only valid for gathering consensus, which is often flawed.
As I said before: If a person wishes to believe that [insert ethnicity here] is inferior to [insert ethnicity here] for [whatever stupidity here], that's their decision. That's not illegal, and even if it was, how the fuck does one prosecute thought crime? It's when someone acts on that and goes on the offensive, to attack, to dehumanize, to commit racially-motivated crimes, that's when it's wrong, because it's an act against another person. I wouldn't call it as bad as, say, murder, but racism itself is a serious problem.
Suicide is a decision. If you don't want to live--and I mean really don't want to live--you will find a way. Just like a person who does hardcore drugs finds them no matter how hard the drug war tries to stop it, and a person who craves violence will find it wherever he goes. Shaming a person who wishes to kill themselves is the reaction of someone who cannot understand the emotional state and history of other people.
Basically speaking: If someone wants to kill themselves, that's a decision about their own person, for themselves, and their own future. If others are hurt by that decision, that's unfortunate, but in the same vein as being hurt by someone drinking alcohol and doing drugs.
I also advocated for seeing a therapist before offing oneself. Because if the wish to kill oneself is coming from a disorder like depression, then that's a tragedy in the making, not a conscious decision made with sound mind.
Seriously. Victim blaming though. Man, c'mon. A person who is killing themselves is already about to go through a literally life ending decision. Being emotionally mature enough to still care about who they were when they pass on, and respect their decision, and making absolutely sure it's what they want to do before going through with it--that's what true family does, what a real friend would do.
Caring enough about someone to accept them even when they end up making a decision that hurts you so they no longer have to deal with whatever it is that's killing them every day is a sign of emotional maturity.
You will live on. It'll hurt, but if they make that decision of their own sound mind, well... Stopping them is torturing them. It's telling them that your own emotional state is more important than theirs is, and sets the value of their individual rights and feelings and beliefs beneath that of yours.
Selfish. Tsk.
Still. Tired. Me thinks I will sleep and we'll see if this goes anywhere when I wake again.